Emily Wolper is a college admissions consultant and former Columbia University admissions officer who absolutely loves her work. She is also a singer, traveler, yoga enthusiast and all around optimist. Emily lives in Morristown, NJ and enjoys having offices in both NJ and NYC. She is a graduate and involved alumna of Vassar College, where she earned a BA in Religion. She also has a masters degree in Educational Theatre from NYU.
To gear up for the High Holidays this year, we’re asking our writers and readers for their Rosh Hashanah Resolution. Here's one from our writer Emily Wolper.
My resolution is to write more blog…posts for Kveller. Quite seriously, I think about possible posts every day and I want to get these ideas out of my head and into the blogosphere. I'm so appreciative of the opportunity to share my thoughts with Kveller readers and I'm hoping to do more writing! Got your own resolutions? Tweet them @Kveller with the… >> Read More
We’ve been following along with Emily on her path to becoming a single mother by choice. Her daughter is now 6 weeks old.
Today I went shopping at Destination Maternity--again.
No, you…didn’t read that wrong. Yes, I had my wonderful little baby girl six weeks ago. We’re having a great time getting to know one another. She is smiley, wiggly, and wonderful. She even sleeps for long chunks of time at night--knock on wood! But, she left me with a very stretched out uterus. In fact,… >> Read More
We’ve been following along with Emily on her path to becoming a single mother by choice. She is now 32 weeks pregnant.
For most of my life, I have had a strong attraction to men who could be…described as wiry, nerdy types. I dated lots of guys who wore smaller jeans than I did and it might have seemed that spectacles were a requirement for the men I chose. In fact, at one point, when my sister and I were playing Hodel and Tzeitel in a regional production of Fiddler on the… >> Read More
We've been following along with Emily on her path to becoming a single mother by choice. She is now 32 weeks pregnant.
Something happened back in October that I was too nervous to share at the…time. It was the day before my embryo transfer. I was scheduled to be in the city in meetings for most of the day, but in the morning, I did some work from home and had a phone call with a potential new client. The call went very well. We spoke for about an hour… >> Read More
When we last heard from her in October, Emily decided to go with IVF to become a single mother by choice. Today, we have an exciting update.
If you have spent any time on Jdate--or any other…dating site, for that matter--you know that there are lots of checkboxes. You can check off that you are single, separated, divorced, or widowed. You can check a box that says you have children, or that you don't. You can even identify if you want children or not. Recently, however, I have noticed that Jdate… >> Read More
As part of our ongoing series about Women, Work & Money, Emily Wolper, who is currently in the process of becoming a single mother by choice, shares her concerns about being the sole provider…to her future child. I grew up in a traditionally structured, suburban household. My dad worked and my mom stayed home to raise my sister and me. She was very involved with the community, serving as president of the PTA at almost every school we attended and leading boards of various organizations that had a… >> Read More
Over the past few weeks, Emily has been chronicling her journey about deciding to become a single mother by choice. Today she talks about what this means for her dating life.
I've been thinking a…lot lately about the dating implications of becoming a single mother by choice. It has always been my dream to find a wonderful man, fall in love, get married, buy a charming colonial in the suburbs, and make a bunch of babies. As you know if you've been reading this blog, things haven't taken that… >> Read More
Over the past few weeks, Emily has been chronicling her journey about deciding to become a single mother by choice. Today she talks about making the move from IUI to IVF.
Last year on Yom…Kippur, the rabbi at my synagogue offered a sermon that was themed “Recalculate Your Route.” It was a moving sermon, and to emphasize his point, he passed out carabiners with little compasses that said “Recalculate Route.” Very clever! That fall, I was very pensive, thinking about my life at 36. I was focused on the… >> Read More
Over the past few weeks, Emily has been chronicling her journey about deciding to become a single mother by choice. Today she adds some superstitions into the equation.
I am Jewish, which, in my…family, also means I am superstitious. Sadly, my maternal grandmother died before I was born, but she definitely left her mark. My mother is superstitious. She says, "puh, puh, puh" after any comment that may reflect happiness or good fortune because, God forbid, mentioning it might make it go away. So much for the laws… >> Read More
Tonight my dad mentioned that when he was reading about the hurricane in Florida and saw the words "storm surge," he thought of "hormone surge" and wondered how I was feeling that afternoon. When he…told me about this word association I laughed and jumped over to my laptop, just as he was asking me to keep him "anonymous" in my blog posts. I have read that family support is vital in the process of becoming a single mother by choice, and I believe I am living proof of that.… >> Read More
Last week, Emily shared her story about deciding to become a single mother by choice. Today she tells us about another important decision: choosing the donor.
If you get option anxiety from wading…through the pages of Jdate or Match.com, I suggest you call in reinforcements if you ever decide to get pregnant using donor sperm. There are many cyrobanks, as they are called, with huge databases of men who have donated their sperm ("donated" for money, to be clear) for the cause of people who want to… >> Read More
As I sang my way down the Garden State Parkway, beach bound and gleeful, I tried not to think about what I was hoping was happening inside my body.
“No day but today!” I sang at the top of my…voice, feeling the truth of Larson’s poignant lyrics. Like a true musical theater kid, I was channeling my intense feelings through song. It had only been an hour since I had had my first IUI (intra uterine insemination) and I was feeling the power of the moment. Everyone told me not to expect anything to… >> Read More