Jackie is the mommy of almost-3-year-old twins living on Long Island and is an active member of the Nassau County Mothers of Twins Club. In her other life, she works as a scientist doing cancer research at Cold Spring Harbor Laboratory and teaching at local colleges.
Call me paranoid, but I’m scared.
Maybe I’ve watched too much “Law & Order SVU,” but my twins were born four years ago, and I’ve worried about pedophiles and sexual predators ever…since. Recent events in the news have made this fear even more pronounced. A group of teenagers sexually assaulted a local girl who was out for a walk WITH HER FATHER. Amber alerts are constantly coming over my Facebook feed. I hear news reports about certain teachers and professors having inappropriate sexual relationships with students.… >> Read More
Milestones. I really hate that word.
I know you’re not supposed to compare your children with others, but it’s really hard. When you’re sitting in Tot Shabbat with your 12-month-old who…can’t sit unsupported yet, watching 10-month-olds walking (or even running) around, how can you not compare? We were worried about our twins, but my pediatrician kept reassuring me, telling me “don’t worry, they’ll catch up.” But when my daughter was 9 months old and not yet able to roll over, he humored me and helped… >> Read More
Our first family vacation was both a huge success and a total failure.
Our twins are almost 4 years old, and our destination was Pennsylvania. We planned to visit Dutch Wonderland and the Please…Touch museum—both destinations were highly recommended by friends whose kids are also almost 4 years old. We arrived at our hotel in Lancaster at about 2:30 Sunday afternoon. We were thrilled to see that our hotel was literally ACROSS THE STREET from Dutch Wonderland. Perfect! Our tickets allowed us to enter Dutch Wonderland after 5:30… >> Read More
I sympathize with the recent article “10 Absurd Reasons My Toddler is Freaking Out.” To my 35-year-old brain, wearing the white Minnie Mouse shirt instead of the grey Minnie Mouse shirt doesn’t…seem like that big of a deal--but to my 3-year-old, it’s a major crisis worthy of a complete meltdown. While I may not see it as important, it’s clearly important to her. >> Read More
I am not going to fast on Yom Kippur.
There, I’ve said it publicly and that means I have to do it.
I want to fast, however I haven’t been allowed to fast since 1998 when I was…hospitalized for anorexia nervosa. That year I remember eagerly awaiting Yom Kippur, because I knew I would be able to not eat anything for 24 hours and for once no one would give me a hard time about it. However, a few days before Yom Kippur, my friends helped me realize I had a problem… >> Read More
I’m a relatively fit person. I’m far from an Olympic athlete, but I do the best I can to stay healthy and in shape. I’m also the working mother of almost 3-year-old twins, so when I’m not…at work I want to be with my children (not at the gym). My friends often ask me how I manage to stay in shape. My answer? I turn playtime into exercise time. When my twins were babies, I’d lay them on their backs and get into a plank position with my face above theirs… >> Read More
“Why didn’t anyone DO SOMETHING?!”
I remember sitting in Hebrew School learning about the Holocaust for the first time. While I was in shock at what humans were capable of doing to other…humans, I was almost more angry at my grandparents and other Americans--how could they just sit at home and let this happen for years before entering the war? Now 25 years later, I am in my grandparents’ shoes. I see 200 schoolgirls get kidnapped in Nigeria. I see unimaginable violence in Iraq and Syria. And… >> Read More
I love my body.
I still am amazed that I can write those words and mean them.
Like many of us, I worried about my weight. However, my normal worry slowly turned into an unhealthy obsession. When I…went to college, my goal didn’t involve doing well in my classes or making friends--my goal was to not gain the “Freshman 15.” I was proud if I could get through the day eating less than I did the day before. I felt a huge sense of accomplishment when I was able to resist the… >> Read More