Last year, when I stood to recite the Kaddish, the prayer for mourners, I was still nursing my baby girl. The words were ashy and bitter in my mouth while my breasts were busy making nourishment,…giving life. It had been exactly twenty years since my mother died. It wasn’t the first anniversary of her death since I’d had children, but it was the first one since I’d become a mother to a daughter. Somehow, it felt different. I was a junior in college, and we were pulling into the garage… >> Read More
It’s NURTURE THE WOWCAST time again! You can catch up with the whole series up to now here.
Today we’re going to talk about the big picture—how parenting is, and can be, a legitimate…spiritual practice in its own right. There are a lot of things we talk about as spiritual work these days—prayer, meditation, painting, writing, yoga, hiking, running, and more. But what if engaging in the intimate care of our children was understood as a legitimate path to understanding the universe, the transcendent, and our place in… >> Read More
When my son Yonatan was about 2, we began instructing him in the fine art of acquiring a bagel. We helped him learn that you have to wait in line, patiently, and not cut in front of other people.…When it's your turn, you have to ask for the kind of bagel you want (sesame, toasted, with cream cheese, in our case), and say "please." You have to give the nice lady your money, and take the change back, and then in the end say "thank you!" when she gives you your order. It's… >> Read More
Welcome to another installment of NURTURE THE WOWCAST! To catch up on what you’ve missed, go here. My book is also being give away by Kveller and the Jewish Book Council here--you have 35 hours…left to enter! This week, we’re going to be talking about the magical lenses that kids have installed—the ones that make it possible to be enchanted by a stick, or an old box, or the ways the leaves shake in the wind. Rabbi Abraham Joshua Heschel, one of the greatest theologians of the 20th century, has… >> Read More
I’m delighted to announce some big news: My forthcoming book and Kveller have come together to create something special—and today is the birthday of our shiny new podcast!
Meet our bundle of…joy, NURTURE THE WOWCAST. It’s a riff on my book, “Nurture the Wow: Finding Spirituality in the Frustration, Boredom, Tears, Poop, Desperation, Wonder, and Radical Amazement of Parenting,” which will be out in just a couple of weeks. Each short (5-7 min) episode offers a little bite of wisdom and inspiration for those of us… >> Read More
Walking around with a clearly pregnant belly and two little boys tends to engender a lot of the same tedious comments, over and over. Yes, I do "have my hands full." Yes, I do "really love…kids." And most importantly: No, we're not "trying for a girl." Because "trying for a girl," implies that I didn't get what I wanted already--that there's something lacking in my sons, some reason I might not be thrilled that these two specific human beings are in my life, that I would want to imagine it… >> Read More
We live on the third floor, and have a little balcony. My 4-year-old has taken to throwing things--toys, couch pillows, books--off the balcony. It's really not OK, and he knows it. He also knows that…if he throws toys he won't see them again for a while, and that there may be some other consequence, to boot. But he's 4, his impulse control is not so hot, and he's testing boundaries. This morning, I asked him to share the toy he was holding with his little brother, so he ran… >> Read More
The other day, kind of by accident, my 1-year-old figured out how to drink from a straw. He put his mouth on the tube attached to the cup in his hand and started sucking--recreationally, it seems. I…don't think he had any expectations that something interesting would happen. His face, as cold milk pooled into his mouth, registered shock, surprise, delight--and, dare I say it--wonder. Watching kids learn how things work down here on Earth is, as every parent knows, hilarious, amazing, and even inspiring. Seeing kids' excitement when they pet a… >> Read More