I have seen it all: accidental pregnancies and OCD planned pregnancies; fertile myrtles and test tube babies. If there’s anything I’ve learned, it’s that challenges with conceiving do not discriminate.
Which brings me to a pet peeve of mine. I get frustrated watching my friends who are over 35 and want to have a child but are not proactive about their fertility. Listen up friends — it doesn’t happen magically like in the movies and TV shows! And while I have known plenty of women over 35 who had no problems conceiving (myself included), time is not on your side. We have about 13 chances a year to get pregnant. That is not very much. You should know when ovulation day is nearby and get busy!
And when I say get busy, let’s throw out the notion that every attempt at conception needs to include candles, rose petals, and romantic mood music. Lingerie? Two-hour marathon sex? For five days in a row? Who has time for that?
I adore my husband. I think he is the most handsome man I have ever seen and I cherish our intimacy. But let’s be honest here, having sex does not always mean making sweet love. You may want sex to fulfill a physical and emotional need, but if you are really serious about getting pregnant, you might need to let go of your preconceived notions of how it should be. You may not be in the mood or even feel distant from your husband when you’re fertile, especially if you tend to get hormonal and cranky during this part of your cycle. Read the rest of this entry →