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Jul 11 2012

Am I Overexposing My Kid Online?

By at 12:23 pm

mika with cupcakes

A few months ago, our own Mayim Bialik decided that it was time to pullback on Facebook. It got me thinking about my own social media habits and if I was revealing too much online about my family. Read about it here in my latest column for the Forward.

A few hours after my daughter was born, she made her big debut on Facebook. My husband posted a photo of her, wrapped in the hospital-issued blanket, with the message: “Exhausted but now the father of this little girl. Her name is Mika (that’s Mee-ka), born last night around three in the morning.”

In a matter of minutes, 44 people commented on the photo and five others “liked it.” In the following days he posted dozens more, encouraged by all the support and affection. Also, we liked posting photos and updates because it felt nice to have our child adored by others, not just us.

More than two and a half years have passed since her birth, and Mika has already had quite a public life. In addition to Facebook, Mika has been the subject of blog posts on things like breastfeeding, teething, co-sleeping and more. This has a lot to do with the fact that I, her mother, am the editor of a Jewish parenting website,, that traffics in these sorts of parenting conundrums.

Read the rest of the article here, and feel free to chime in about where you draw the line.

Mar 19 2012

Dr. Spock’s Wife Likes Me

By at 2:55 pm
Dr. Spock

Dr. Benjamin Spock

Like many of us (50 million to be precise) I was raised on Dr. Spock. In my house he had a God-like status on the bookshelf in the hallway.

So, when I noticed this weekend that Dr. Spock’s wife had written me a note, I was, well, kvelling.

Let me explain.

I wrote a column for The Forward about how bizarro it is that all the parenting manuals that my friends and I read are written by men. (As opposed to the self-lacerating momoirs that women write about how French and Chinese mothers are so much better than us.) In it I write:

It’s shocking to me that while the world of childrearing (and definitely childbearing) is still mostly considered the domain of women, the books my friends and I read “instructing” us on how to do it are written by men. It’s a bit like how most of the top chefs in the world are men even though women do most of the cooking in the home. It’s not that these books are bad, but it seems curious that we treat these male doctors like our rebbes.

The first comment posted on the piece is by Dr. Spock’s wife, Mary Morgan. And it’s really sweet. And she says that my mom should be proud. Jeez!

Read the Forward piece here!


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