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Jun 3 2014

Up Close: Melissa & Marc Cohen

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1. Are you raising your kid(s) with one religion, both religions, or somewhere in between?

Our children are being raised as Jews. When we first got married, I knew nothing about Judaism and was nervous about what that would mean for our family. My husband is Jewish, and his Judaism is central to how he defines himself. I knew that it would be a part of our children’s identities as well. I read everything I could get my hands on about Judaism.

The more I learned about Judaism, the more comfortable I was and the more I wanted to be a part of it. I don’t know that I was ready to convert when we got married, but by the time I did (five years later) it felt utterly anti-climatic. It felt like getting married, a confirmation of what we already were. We were reading PJ Library books before bed, and baking challah every Friday afternoon. We were members of a synagogue (my daughter was attending the same religious school that my stepdaughters attended), and actively living a Jewish life. Read the rest of this entry →

May 30 2014

Up Close: Lara Robby & Shawn Gaiero

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1. How did you and your spouse meet?

East Village, Avenue C. A Cuban Club, dancing, and a mutual friend.

2. Are you raising your kid(s) with one religion, both religions, or somewhere in between? Read the rest of this entry →

May 28 2014

Up Close: Victoria & Dmitri

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1. How did you and your spouse meet?

We were casual friends in high school. When we met up again after college, we realized that we had a lot more in common than we previously thought. Twelve years and three states later, we returned to our home state and started our own little family, near our parents.

2. Are you raising your kid(s) with one religion, both religions, or somewhere in between? Read the rest of this entry →

May 23 2014

Up Close: Jessica & Derek

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1. How did you and your spouse meet?

We met on Myspace… Yes, Myspace.

The man who would be my husband emailed me. Read the rest of this entry →

May 21 2014

Up Close: Maria & Steve Broutt

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1. Are you raising your kid(s) with one religion, both religions, or somewhere in between?

We are raising our children Jewish, and they will be attending a Jewish preschool in the fall. Growing up in a Catholic school and [with a] strict Catholic upbringing, religion was a big part of my life. What I took from it was a love for religious history and spirituality. Even though I have converted and my children are Jewish I believe in teaching my children about Christian holidays, and why we celebrate them. Right now they celebrate both Christian holidays with my family and Jewish holidays with my husband’s family. They are still to0 young to ask questions but when the time comes I hope that I can teach my children to embrace both sides of their parents’ history and traditions. I never want my children to feel like they need to choose sides. It’s important to both of us that they become good people first, and Jewish second.

2. How do you feel about your family being labelled “interfaith”? Read the rest of this entry →

May 19 2014

Up Close: Alina & Scott Wickham

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1. Are you raising your kid(s) with one religion, both religions, or somewhere in between?

Our three kids are Jewish. Not half-Jewish, 100 percent Jewish. Not just because they have a Jewish mother, which makes them Jewish under halacha (Jewish law), but because we have a Jewish home. We celebrate the holidays, we celebrate Shabbat, my daughter goes to a Jewish Day School and my sons go to services. We go to their paternal grandparents for Christmas and Easter. We’ve been to a cousin’s communion. But the attitude is, just like you go to someone else’s house and celebrate their birthday when it isn’t your birthday, we are there to help them celebrate their holidays. Oh, and if gifts are being given out, they are taken. My husband is extremely supportive of our having a Jewish home. We agreed on that before we were married.Chanukkah-Alina

Periodically, I get flack from people who tell me that I should have married a Jewish man. I ask, “So it would have been better for me to marry, say, a Soviet-born Jew who knows nothing about the customs and would be aggressively dismissive of practicing it? Just as long as he was Jewish?” Sometimes, they say, “Yes.” They are so, so wrong.

2. What did you think would be an issue about being an interfaith family that really hasn’t been? Read the rest of this entry →

May 16 2014

Up Close: Gen & Max Tolsky

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1. Can you think of a particular day when it felt especially difficult to be an interfaith family?

When we were engaged, we had a very difficult time finding two officiants who were willing to marry us. My priest at the church I grew up in said he’d officiate our wedding, and even with a rabbi, but it would have to be in the church (he wouldn’t do a banquet hall). The hard part there is that would make it awkward for some and feel “slanted” on one side of the religious scale… not preferable.

The rabbi at the temple Max grew up in said he’d officiate in a banquet hall and would be happy to marry us if we agreed to raise our children Jewish (implying Jewish only). Read the rest of this entry →

May 14 2014

Up Close: Sarah & Carl Chen

By at 11:51 am

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Are you raising your kid(s) with one religion, both religions, or somewhere in between?

When deciding what religion we would raise our children, we struck a funny bargain. It was never up for negotiation for Sarah not to raise Jewish children, but Carl’s heritage mattered, too. As a proud Michigander, Carl grew up with tons of ethnic and religious diversity. He consented as a non-Jew to fully participate in raising Jewish children as long as: 1. They referred to carbonated beverages as “pop” (not soda) and 2. Cheered for the Red Wings, his favorite hockey team. So far, no problems with either end of the bargain!

How do you feel about your family being labeled “interfaith”? Read the rest of this entry →

Dec 18 2012

To Tree or Not to Tree? Jewish Answers to Christmas Trees

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As Christmas approaches, many Jewish families, especially interfaith families, confront the question: Do you have a tree? Both married to non-Jews, but raising Jewish children, friends Aliza Worthington and Shoshana Martyniak have two very different answers.

Aliza: So, I have a Christmas tree in my house. Here’s why, not that you asked.

I’m married to a man who was raised Catholic. I was raised in a secular Jewish household by Jewish parents who insisted that the most important requirement for marriage was mutual love (lots of it) and mutual respect (lots of that, too). All other considerations were secondary. So, it surprised no one when my sister married a Catholic. When my grandmother learned my sister and her then-husband were going to have a Christmas tree, she said, “But, it won’t be a Jewish household!” Read the rest of this entry →

Dec 7 2012

How We Celebrate Both Hanukkah & Christmas

By at 1:16 pm

Each December, I tingle in anticipation of the upcoming holiday season. I savor it all…the songs, the sentiment, the TV specials, the homey smells of cinnamon, apple cider, and cookies, and the spirit of tzedakah.

I’m Jewish, born and raised in New York, married to a South African man who is the son of an Evangelist minister.

In our family, we celebrate both Hanukkah and Christmas. Read the rest of this entry →

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