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May 30 2014

Up Close: Lara Robby & Shawn Gaiero

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1. How did you and your spouse meet?

East Village, Avenue C. A Cuban Club, dancing, and a mutual friend.

2. Are you raising your kid(s) with one religion, both religions, or somewhere in between? Read the rest of this entry →

May 28 2014

Up Close: Victoria & Dmitri

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1. How did you and your spouse meet?

We were casual friends in high school. When we met up again after college, we realized that we had a lot more in common than we previously thought. Twelve years and three states later, we returned to our home state and started our own little family, near our parents.

2. Are you raising your kid(s) with one religion, both religions, or somewhere in between? Read the rest of this entry →

May 23 2014

Up Close: Jessica & Derek

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1. How did you and your spouse meet?

We met on Myspace… Yes, Myspace.

The man who would be my husband emailed me. Read the rest of this entry →

May 21 2014

Up Close: Maria & Steve Broutt

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1. Are you raising your kid(s) with one religion, both religions, or somewhere in between?

We are raising our children Jewish, and they will be attending a Jewish preschool in the fall. Growing up in a Catholic school and [with a] strict Catholic upbringing, religion was a big part of my life. What I took from it was a love for religious history and spirituality. Even though I have converted and my children are Jewish I believe in teaching my children about Christian holidays, and why we celebrate them. Right now they celebrate both Christian holidays with my family and Jewish holidays with my husband’s family. They are still to0 young to ask questions but when the time comes I hope that I can teach my children to embrace both sides of their parents’ history and traditions. I never want my children to feel like they need to choose sides. It’s important to both of us that they become good people first, and Jewish second.

2. How do you feel about your family being labelled “interfaith”? Read the rest of this entry →

May 19 2014

Up Close: Alina & Scott Wickham

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1. Are you raising your kid(s) with one religion, both religions, or somewhere in between?

Our three kids are Jewish. Not half-Jewish, 100 percent Jewish. Not just because they have a Jewish mother, which makes them Jewish under halacha (Jewish law), but because we have a Jewish home. We celebrate the holidays, we celebrate Shabbat, my daughter goes to a Jewish Day School and my sons go to services. We go to their paternal grandparents for Christmas and Easter. We’ve been to a cousin’s communion. But the attitude is, just like you go to someone else’s house and celebrate their birthday when it isn’t your birthday, we are there to help them celebrate their holidays. Oh, and if gifts are being given out, they are taken. My husband is extremely supportive of our having a Jewish home. We agreed on that before we were married.Chanukkah-Alina

Periodically, I get flack from people who tell me that I should have married a Jewish man. I ask, “So it would have been better for me to marry, say, a Soviet-born Jew who knows nothing about the customs and would be aggressively dismissive of practicing it? Just as long as he was Jewish?” Sometimes, they say, “Yes.” They are so, so wrong.

2. What did you think would be an issue about being an interfaith family that really hasn’t been? Read the rest of this entry →

May 16 2014

Up Close: Gen & Max Tolsky

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1. Can you think of a particular day when it felt especially difficult to be an interfaith family?

When we were engaged, we had a very difficult time finding two officiants who were willing to marry us. My priest at the church I grew up in said he’d officiate our wedding, and even with a rabbi, but it would have to be in the church (he wouldn’t do a banquet hall). The hard part there is that would make it awkward for some and feel “slanted” on one side of the religious scale… not preferable.

The rabbi at the temple Max grew up in said he’d officiate in a banquet hall and would be happy to marry us if we agreed to raise our children Jewish (implying Jewish only). Read the rest of this entry →

May 14 2014

Up Close: Sarah & Carl Chen

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Are you raising your kid(s) with one religion, both religions, or somewhere in between?

When deciding what religion we would raise our children, we struck a funny bargain. It was never up for negotiation for Sarah not to raise Jewish children, but Carl’s heritage mattered, too. As a proud Michigander, Carl grew up with tons of ethnic and religious diversity. He consented as a non-Jew to fully participate in raising Jewish children as long as: 1. They referred to carbonated beverages as “pop” (not soda) and 2. Cheered for the Red Wings, his favorite hockey team. So far, no problems with either end of the bargain!

How do you feel about your family being labeled “interfaith”? Read the rest of this entry →

May 12 2014

When the Terrified Non-Jewish Mom Hosts the Bris

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My husband Marc was Jewish, I was not. We hadn’t decided, not entirely, what that would mean for our kids. We already had a 3-year-old daughter, and she was happily celebrating Christian and Jewish holidays with both sides of our extended family. But having a son made any theoretical discussion suddenly incredibly real.

For Marc, the idea that we wouldn’t circumcise our infant son wasn’t an option. It was an absolute. This wasn’t a topic for discussion, not like whether or not we’d have a Christmas tree or should we not give our toddler cheerios during the week of Passover. I had to honor Marc’s right to make this decision. I had known he was Jewish, I had chosen to create a family with him. I had to respect his feelings on this topic, but I was surprised at the strength of his conviction.

I knew about circumcision. All of the little boys in my family had been circumcised in the hospital before coming home, so it wasn’t a foreign idea for me. Having it done at home was new, but my husband (and a Jewish friend who was also a resident at the local hospital) convinced me that having it done by an experienced mohel, as opposed to an exhausted and inexperienced resident, would be the best choice. If we had to do it, at least it would be done in a loving and gentle environment, by someone who was incredibly experienced and competent. Read the rest of this entry →

Up Close: Rachel & Scott Stein

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Up Close: Rachel & Scott Stein

1. How did you and your husband meet?

Scott and I met as undergraduates at Stony Brook University. We were both dating other people at the time but socialized in the same circle of friends. After graduation we reconnected and he asked me out on a date.

About two months into dating we took a road trip to North Carolina. After being in the car for such a long time I just blurted out, “So is it important to you to raise your children Jewish?” I said it so casually, like if it was important to him to put pickles on his burger. It turned out to be a great conversation starter for such a long drive and it really helped us make sure we were on the same page in regards to the future. Read the rest of this entry →

Up Close: Putting a Face on the Interfaith Conversation

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Here’s something: More than half of Jews who got married over the past eight years wedded a non-Jewish spouse, and one third of intermarried families are not raising their children Jewish at all.

Interfaith families are certainly a hot topic, and the conversation was only amplified last October when a new study on American Jews highlighted the sharp rise in intermarriage over the recent years.

While access to statistics and percentages like those in the above study can be incredibly helpful in understanding the current trends of American Jews, the avalanche of articles from various outlets (and oh there were many) focusing on these numbers seemed to forget one very important thing: interfaith families are not a collection of numbers and statistics. They are real, live families made up of (you guessed it) real, live people. 

In an effort to put a face on the numbers, Kveller is excited to kick off a photo series for the next month. We’ll be highlighting interfaith families through photographs and interviews to hear what it’s actually like to be in an interfaith family, or part of an extended interfaith family–no statistics required.

Stay tuned, and if you’re part of an interfaith family and would like to be involved, drop a line to info@kveller.com.

Here is a list of the families we have featured:

Up Close: Rachel & Scott Stein

1. Rachel & Scott Stein

On a road trip she fell in love with her husband–and his love of Judaism.

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2. Sarah & Carl Chen

He agreed to raise the kids Jewish. She agreed to refer to soda as “pop.”

 gen-and-max-up-close3. Gen & Max Tolsky

The most difficult part was finding a rabbi and a priest to officiate their interfaith wedding.

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4. Alina & Scott Wickham

Their son is named for Ehud Barak. Their daughter, for Martin Luther King.

maria-steve-3 5. Maria & Steve Broutt

They are raising the kids Jewish, but celebrate Christian holidays with Maria’s Catholic family.

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6. Jessica & Derek

They are raising their daughter with both Jewish and Christian faiths.

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 7. Victoria & Dmitri

This family celebrates with moon cakes during the autumn festival and matzah ball soup on Passover.

lara-robby-upclose8. Laura Robby & Shawn Gaiero 

What happens when your future husband offers to bring a challah to your parent’s seder?

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9. Melissa & Marc Cohen

December can be difficult when you are the only Jews who have a Christmas tree.

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10. Stacie & Andrew Garnett-Cook

When they met, he was skeptical about organized religion. Her love of Judaism helped him see the positive side.

11. Mayim Bialik & Family

When Mayim and her boys visit their Mormon relatives in Utah, they talk about who celebrates what and why.

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12. Courtney Naliboff & William Trevaskis

They met at a rock club in Boston, where both of their bands were lined up to play. Now they live on an island.

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There isn’t much Jewish life outside of Shanghai, so on Passover, they made their own matzahs.

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 14. Adina Kay-Gross & Family

Sometimes they brought their menorahs or matzahs to Christmas and Easter at Grandma’s.

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15. Carin & Mike Mrotz

Mike’s not “letting” her raise the kids Jewish, they’re doing it together.

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16. Elizabeth & Matthew

She still has unresolved feelings about Christmas and feeling left out of things.

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17. Tamara Reese & Family

Since her extended family is not Jewish, things got complicated at the baby naming ceremony.

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18. Michelle Tirella-Ventura & Andre Ventura

The biggest obstacle that this blended family has faced? Other people.

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19. Amy Ravis Furey & Brian Furey

Though he has no intention of converting, this Catholic dad drives Hebrew school carpool and volunteers at temple.

Patrick&AliMcDonald-Juniper-11m20. Ali & Patrick McDonald

Tragedy forces this mom to wonder if she could be endangering her children by raising them Jewish.

 

This series was made possible in part by the UJA-Federation of New York.

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