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Dec 3 2014

I Missed a Major Career Milestone, But At Least I Was With My Kids

By at 11:22 am

My Kids' Happiness Matters More Than My Success

Recently I was nominated for the state association’s School Psychologist of the Year award. When the awards’ committee chairperson encouraged the nominees to bring their family to the ceremony, I casually broached the topic at dinner.

My 13-year-old first said, “Nah, I’m good,” but after asking a couple of questions about the award, he said, “Yeah, I can make that happen.” My 16-year-old replied, “Meh. I want my me time.” He begrudgingly ended up changing his tune weeks later, claiming that he did want “to support” me (even if it was only after hearing that the rest of the family said “of course” they’d come).

It was a bit of a juggling act in finagling early pickups from school and getting out emails to the coach and teachers about missed practice and class assignments. It also was a challenge in ensuring their proper dress (“No, you cannot bring Doritos with you in the car just so your slacks can turn orange”). And, it wasn’t easy ignoring their incessant grumbles about having to endure a three-hour drive up to the hotel, in a packed car with all seven seats occupied; I made sure not to bring up the fact that there would be another three-hour drive back, late at night. Read the rest of this entry →

Aug 26 2014

WATCH: In Your 30s You Finally Get It

By at 2:57 pm


“Sisterhood: A Documentary” is a lovely short film about friendship, self-reflection, and what it means to be in your 30s.

When she received tenure from her job as a professor, one Pittsburgh woman decided it was time to celebrate her accomplishments in a meaningful way. Watch what happens when nine smart, accomplished ladies get together to enjoy a day of pampering and glamour:

Elizabeth Craig from John Craig on Vimeo.

(H/t Tamara Reese)

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Feb 21 2012

Do Parents Actually Have Any Control?

By at 4:40 pm
grading chart

How do we grade our parenting success?

To be honest, I am seriously annoyed. With all the discussions about Tiger Moms, Helicopter Moms, French Moms, and Laid Back Moms, I wonder why no one is qualifying what defines a “good parent.” You’re a better parent because your kid is quieter at mealtime than mine? I’m a better parent because my kid plays on his own and yours doesn’t? Where are the longitudinal studies of these children’s progress into adulthood? Who is to say how childhood behaviors result in emotionally stable, successful, polite, empathetic, patient, independent, healthy, and happy adults? Are those not the measures we should be considering? Read the rest of this entry →


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