DVDs

How Much DVD-Time is Too Much DVD-Time?

As I type this, my 4-year-old is enthralled by a Thomas the Train DVD. In an ideal world, I would only let my kids watch DVDs when I am 1. sick in bed or 2. desperately needing that extra hour of sleep in the morning. Wait, in an ideal world, I wouldn’t even need DVDs. My kids would be busy constructing breathtakingly educational products, cleaning the house, and making my coffee while letting me sleep in.

But, my friends, in case you haven’t noticed, this is hardly an ideal world.

Today, after a playdate fell through, his brother going down for a nap, and me needing to pack for an impending move (which I am expertly procrastinating by writing this post, I should note), my 4-year-old proclaimed, “I’m bored.”

If I were on top of things, I would call around for another playdate, find some sort of activity to occupy him, read him a book, or play with him (gasp!). But no. I said, “Do you want to watch a video?” 

I held out on the DVDs until I was expecting my third child (in four years). At that point, with two active little boys, I caved. We got a couple of Blues Clues DVDs and I was able to get some much-needed rest. After the birth of my daughter, I praised the inventor of DVDs to anyone who would listen.

However, once the DVD crack was unleashed, it was a challenge to reign it in. Yes, I understand the need for boundaries and consistency, but in the first trimester of pregnancy and immediately postpartum, I am not excellent at executing either of these. So we created a bit of a monster. You know, the kind of monster where when we *did* say no, tantrums ensued. Often and loudly.

Eventually, after much parental effort, we found a healthy balance where I didn’t feel like I was abdicating all my parenting to the DVD, and my kids were able to cope with me saying “No, we’re not watching anything right now.”

Honestly, I would rather be the type of mother who is able to say, “Oh, you’re bored? Here, let’s go bake some whole wheat cookies together, and I’ll teach you how to say each ingredient in Hebrew!” But I am not that mother, at least not most of the time (all of the time, if you want to know the ingredients in Hebrew). And while I certainly appreciate the breathing room DVDs can give me, I accept that they are not the ideal for us.

Some things I do appreciate: 

1. When they actually learn something, like rhyming with Blues Clues, or when they watch Thomas in Spanish.

2. The down time I get

3. The down time they get

Some things I don’t: 

1. The screen time factor

2. The previews (oy, marketing)

3. The zoned out expression on my kids’ faces

So, until I’ve attained maternal nirvana, DVDs will be my go-to occupier of my kids’ boredom. When I feel like I’m exploiting it, I will probably still feel guilty, but all we can do is the best we can do.

As I finish this post, I’m sitting next to my son with my laptop on my lap (imagine that). He had sweetly asked me, “Mommy, come sit over here by me and watch the DVD with me, because I love you so much.”

Some things will never be able to be replaced by a video, thankfully.


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Rivki SilverRivki Silver has spent most of her life immersed in the study and instruction of music, but for the past seven years has been learning about marriage and motherhood. She writes about relationships, parenthood, music and religion, as seen through the lens of an Orthodox woman. Her writing can be found on Aish.com, PartnersinTorah.org, WhattoExpect.com, as well as her blog Life in the Married Lane. You can also find her on Facebook and Twitter, or in the kitchen, trying to get her four kids to eat something.

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