Recently, Kveller has been running a series of posts with professional sleep coach Batya Sherizen, in which she answers readers’ questions about issues they are having with their children’s sleep. I’m not a professional sleep coach and I respect people like Batya, but there are actually other perspectives on sleep, and I wanted to share some of the “other side.” I speak from the perspective of someone who got (free) sleep advice from people who don’t support sleep training and I also come from my training as a Certified Lactation Educator Counselor. Some of us don’t prescribe to sleep training, especially for the first year, and especially if you are breastfeeding. Here’s why.
I wrote a book a few years ago called Beyond the Sling. It was a very straightforward, very honest, very accurate portrayal of what Attachment Parenting looked like in my home. More specifically, there were chapters on my experiences with natural birth and homebirth, breastfeeding on demand as well as extended breastfeeding, not using harsh discipline or punitive discipline, the magic of baby-wearing, and other such enthralling AP-related topics.
And of course there was a chapter on sleep. Sleep training and sleep management is one of the most profitable and difficult topics for new parents. I chose to safely co-sleep with my sons, participating in the subset of co-sleeping known as bed-sharing. That means my sons and I shared–and still share on many nights–a sleeping surface. As I discuss in my book, this arrangement is not for everyone and it is most certainly not for people who cannot or will not abide by the rules of safe co-sleeping. However, from my experience as a mother of two breastfeeding and securely attached children, as well as a Certified Lactation Educator Counselor (C.L.E.C.), I have a lot of things to say about babies and sleep.
Here are the reasons why I don’t believe in sleep training. If you want to be conservative about the matter, these beliefs of mine hold most strongly for children under 6 months of age. Read the rest of this entry →
Yesterday on Raising Kvell, Tzipporah La Fianza wrote a post about her frustrations with attachment parenting, and why she stopped associating with AP. Today, Mayim responds.
Hey, Tzipporah. So… I’m kind of in the middle of a divorce and I am really stressed and it’s really the least fun week I’ve had in a long time, but did you think you could sneak this one by me and I wouldn’t respond!? I mean, come on, sister. I WROTE A BOOK ON IT!
In all gentleness and camaraderie, I would like to respond to some of your points as best as I can as someone who is not a perfect AP mom, or a perfect any kind of mom (ask Carla Naumburg), but just a plain mom who has also been through the parenting wringer, AP and otherwise, and lived to tell about it. Read the rest of this entry →
In honor of the Emmys which are this Sunday, the 23rd, and the fact that Mayim is nominated for Best Supporting Actress (woohoo!), we’ll be giving away a copy of Beyond the Sling.
Congrats to yesterday’s winner: Jennifer Oltman
To enter, sign up for Kveller’s e-letter by clicking this link and then wish Mayim good luck in the comments below (NOTE: if you’re already signed up for the newsletter, just skip to the “good luck” part). We’ll choose a winner at the end of the day TODAY, so enter now!
Good morning! In honor of the Emmys which are this Sunday, the 23rd, and the fact that Mayim is nominated for Best Supporting Actress, we’ll be giving away a copy of Beyond the Sling every day this week!
Congrats to yesterday’s winner: Colleen O’connel.
To enter, sign up for Kveller’s e-letter by clicking this link and then say hello in the comments below (NOTE: if you’re already signed up for the newsletter, just skip to the saying hello part). We’ll choose a winner at the end of the day TODAY, so enter now! If you don’t win, there’s always tomorrow.
Good morning! In honor of the Emmys which are this Sunday, the 23rd, and the fact that Mayim is nomiated for Best Supporting Actress, we’ll be giving away a copy of Beyond the Sling every day this week!
To enter, sign up for Kveller’s e-letter by clicking this link and then let us know in the comments below (if you’re already signed up, then just skip to the comment part). We’ll choose a winner at the end of the day TODAY, so enter now! If you don’t win, there’s always tomorrow and the next day…
I’ve told you about how my audio book came to be, and now it’s time to have a little fun. We’ll be giving away copies of my audio book to three lucky winners right here on the blog!
To enter, please sign-up for Kveller’s e-letter by clicking here. Once you’ve signed up, leave a comment right here on this post to let us know you’ve entered. And if you’re already signed up for the e-letter, just leave a comment and you’re all set. We’ll draw three random names on Monday, July 16th, so enter today.
For whoever wins the audio version of my book: enjoy. And picture me listening along with you!
Beyond the Sling, my sweet labor-of-love book about our family’s journey into the belly of attachment parenting came out in March. I did a ton of publicity for it including Barbara Walters asking me where my husband and I have sex, Kveller threw me a book release party at Cafe Blossom in Manhattan with most of the Maccabeats there; it’s been really really good.
Imagine my thrill when I got an offer to release my book as an audio book! So much fun, right? The thought of getting to have readers/listeners hear my book with all of my tone, inflection, and humor was very exciting. However, the offer came in in the middle of my Big Bang Theory work schedule, and they needed something like four or five full days blocked off for me to record it. I had already gotten off a week from Big Bang to do publicity for the book, and since I don’t schedule recording stuff on Shabbat, it was pretty much impossible for me to record it myself. Read the rest of this entry →
Hoo-boy. My book, Beyond the Sling, came out a few months ago. It went well. I was on The View, Nightline, and GMA. Big magazines interviewed me and the reviews were really positive overall. I didn’t make the NY Times bestseller list (seems you have to be a horribly mean/strict/abusive mama to really capture the interest of Americans!), but I was really pleased with the overall outcome of the book release: we went into a third printing the week it came out, Kveller threw me an awesome party at kosher/vegan Cafe Blossom, and seven of the Maccabeats came to the party (but who’s counting?). I mean, come on: in my world it does not get much better than that.
Imagine my surprise that I and my book have become something of a mini-sensation again in the past two weeks! First, Howard Stern (who I both am repulsed by and find utterly fascinating) mentioned he’d love to talk to me about how I “don’t believe in diapers” (his quote, not mine; we practiced Elimination Communication (EC) but used cloth diapers until we had the system down at about 15 months and much as I “believe” in hamburgers but don’t partake in them, I do “believe” in diapers). Read the rest of this entry →
Mayim Bialik is the grandchild of immigrants from Eastern Europe and the mother of two young boys. She is best known for her lead role in the 1990s NBC sitcom Blossom, as well as her current role as Amy Farrah Fowler on CBS' The Big Bang Theory.