Dec 8 2014
The holidays are a time of joy, togetherness, and feelings of good for all man and womankind, right? Of course.
The holidays also seem to be a time when I hear more and more women than I can count talk about their fear, insecurity, and anxiety about their bodies going into the holidays: fear of gaining weight, insecurity about how they already weigh more than they’d like to, anxiety about the expectations surrounding food at this time of year…
In my typical scrooge fashion, I would like to call attention to the absurdity of our national obsession with gorging ourselves on food for holidays. I’m all for festive food traditions, but it is unclear to me why we have this notion of eating so much that you feel so full and so sick after the meal. We have thousands of hungry children in this country who don’t even get three meals a day–and we have this strange tradition of eating way more than we need to. Read the rest of this entry →
Jan 23 2014
Now that awards season is over, I am pretty sure it’s OK and authentic to say that I am tired of writing about dresses, SPANX, and expectations of wins and losses. I feel like writing about parenting again. So here we go.
I read a piece on the internet about whether or not to “force” children to kiss their parents or grandparents (or anyone else for that matter). It included the author’s decision to let her child know that when she gets kisses she’s “happy mama” and when she doesn’t get kisses, she’s “sad mama.” Argh. Yeah, that is so not my parenting philosophy or vernacular, but what do I know?
Here’s the thing. The thing about truth is that it’s true. The thing about parenting is that everything seems to change with every situation and it’s sometimes hard to tell what “true” is. I’d like to take this example of children not wanting to kiss certain people as an example of when truth trumps parenting. Read the rest of this entry →
Jan 9 2014
As many of you know, a fashion-y photo shoot recently came out in Regard Magazine (it begins on page 110). I’ve never done a shoot like this before and, who knows, I may never do one like this again. In all seriousness, my shoot with Regard Magazine was very efficient (we did about 15 looks in under three hours).
For many reasons which I won’t go into, this is not the kind of shoot I’m normally asked to do, and I would definitely file this one under “outside of my comfort zone.” The stylist did a great job finding fairly modest dresses, and with the exception of a few hemlines and a few adjustments of slits, I’m pretty pleased with the amount of skin covered up. Here are the things that every model knows, which I didn’t know, but learned during my shoot.
1. Suck in your gut at all times.
Without exception, the photographer reminded me every two clicks of the camera to suck in my stomach. Apparently the goal is to make people think you’re skinnier than you even are. Read the rest of this entry →
Oct 25 2013
My bestie sent me this video of a young woman reciting a poem about her family, but it’s more about how women get messages about eating, speaking up, and just creating space in homes, families, and our culture.
It’s a really worthwhile few minutes to watch this and send it on to a woman you love who is maybe struggling with knowing her place or finding her place; or any woman you respect and think might appreciate how well these issues are articulated here.
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Jul 3 2012
As fellow writer Carla Naumburg and I have discussed both here on Kveller and also off-post, she and I are very different. We are also very much alike.
Take her latest post about waxing her nether regions, for example: I too have never partaken in waxing. Matter of fact, I remain the tomboy/feminist who has never in her life shaved her legs or armpits. Ever.
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