Oct 27 2014
My boys turned 6 and 9 in the past few months. They seem really really big to me lately. Firstborn is mainly getting taller in his neck, ankles, and wrists, because clothing fits everywhere but those places. He looks more and more like me, not just because he has my eye color and hair and skin coloring in general, but he just looks so much like I did as a kid. (The fact that I was female didn’t make it into God’s memo until I was about 16; before then, I looked a lot like a boy.)
Little Man all of a sudden has the posture of his father as an adult, and he seems very grown-up–able to help me in the kitchen in ways I didn’t realize he could, and refusing to clear the table just like the teenager he is.
A few things have not changed, though, as my boys age. I wanted to share my observations in the hopes that it will warm the hearts of mamas with kids older than mine, and give encouragement to the moms of kids younger than mine who wonder what will happen when their babies get older and bigger.
1. Mama is magic. Read the rest of this entry →
Sep 29 2014
“The Big Bang Theory” films about three episodes per month, and we get off a week in between episodes. These hiatus weeks tend to be busy, as I use that week to catch up on everything I can’t do during the weeks I am filming. Thus, I generally spend hiatus weeks wearing pajamas and cooking and cleaning (I clean my own toilets and everything), going to doctor’s appointments, and hanging out with my kids, trying to not feel like an out-of-touch mama because I am a working mama.
This past hiatus I went to the Colonial city of Antigua in Guatemala and I stayed at the Porta Antigua Hotel. It was beautiful. Tons of history and ruins and churches long ago turned into museums. The ancient Mayan capital city of Tikal was rivaled in my experience only by Cairo in terms of its magnitude, magnificence, and greatness.
Guatemala is a country rich in culture and full of stunning architecture, natural resources, and tons of adventure. The food was consistently delicious and if you have a heart for trying new things and exploring new places, I highly recommend traveling to Guatemala. Hasta la proxima vez, Guatemala! Read the rest of this entry →
Mar 5 2014
The recent study by Dr. Cynthia Colen has a lot of us in the breastfeeding world up in arms. This study declares that benefits of breastfeeding may be “overstated” and our very own Jordana Horn has indicated that this could be an end to Mommy Wars since everyone is just doing their best and we are all good moms and other such positive messages of unity and happiness which I wholeheartedly support!
However, the issues are the following:
1. Academics. This study is not the end all be all of studies. The journal it is published in is not, in my opinion, the foremost journal to look for for this kind of research. The study was based on statistical associations which are not always correlations (they are not the same thing!). It is not a faultless study. It is not “right” simply because it was published. In academia, things are published all of the time which are later edited, revisited, re-analyzed, dissected, contested, and reviewed. That a study exists doesn’t make it a talking point for us moms everywhere. This is an academic paper designed for a statistics and social sciences audience, not for us to use to bolster any particular opinion or lifestyle choice we make based on our lives, work schedules, and decisions. And I would say that even if the study supported breastfeeding. These kinds of papers are not meant for public consumption to draw conclusions about our particular situations. Read the rest of this entry →
Oct 18 2013
What many people remember from “Blossom,” besides the hats with sunflowers which my character sometimes wore, is the relationship between Blossom and her best friend Six, named so because her “father said that’s how many beers it took.” The actress who played Six was two years younger than me and her name is Jenna von Oy.
Jenna is now a mother of a toddler, and although we had spoken sporadically over the years since the show ended, Jenna’s becoming a mom started a new phase of our relationship. I was able to do some breastfeeding counseling for her (I am a Certified Lactation Educator Counselor) and we have shared a lot about our parenting and lives in the past year. In honor of Breastfeeding Awareness Month a few months ago, we decided to start a dialogue which we would post jointly here and on her website. Some of it is about our lives, some is about our parenting, some is just us catching up.
You can read my interview of Jenna below, and you can read Jenna’s interview of me on her website, www.cradlechronicles.com. I know it’s not a full “Blossom” reunion, but we think this might be a tad more interesting than seeing us try and dance like teenagers as grown adults while wearing flowered hats, floral dresses with vests, and those little clips that cinch the vest and clunky shoes with scrunched down socks.
Actually, come to think of it, that sounds incredibly interesting. I’ll get back to you about making that happen. Read the rest of this entry →
May 1 2013
As a lactation educator counselor and someone who struggled to breastfeed both of my sons, I’d like to weigh in on this measuring breast milk stuff (in which a new device measures how much milk is in your breast before and after a feeding; Carla Naumburg wrote about it on Kveller yesterday).
What I think is important to know is something I learned when I went to the Los Angeles County Fair several years ago. (It was the first and last time, since I did not expect pig races and that was totally not cool with me nor will it ever be.) There was a “dairy” display and they had dozens of different types of cows on display. Next to each cow’s pen was a little sign with their name, and the type of cow they are, and a list of what their milk is best used for. Read the rest of this entry →
Apr 24 2013
I just returned from a trip to Denver. I spoke for the Hillel there at a funky art gallery. Awesome venue. I always like to speak for college students, and especially to Hillel donors. I share what a huge influence Hillel had on me during my 12 years of undergraduate and graduate school at UCLA, and how Hillel shaped my Jewish adulthood and life in ways no other organization ever has. It was a very nice trip.
Here are three things I am grateful for from the trip:
1. Breastfeeding mama on my airplane. When I see babies boarding planes I am also boarding, I get nervous. I am very jittery on planes as it is, and a screaming small person on planes makes me even more jittery. Kids and babies are like a fuse about to burst at any minute; they make me anxious even though I know it’s normal and natural blah blah blah. Read the rest of this entry →
Jan 8 2013
As a Certified Lactation Educator/Counselor, I feel the need to respond to the recent post about “I Had to Stop Breastfeeding & I’m Relieved” published on Kveller. It would be a disservice to women who are new to breastfeeding or don’t know about it to spread information about breastfeeding that comes from a writer’s particular situation and choices.
There are two main points I’d like to make:
1. You don’t have to stop breastfeeding because you need medication. Read the rest of this entry →
Nov 30 2012
Earlier this week Kveller’s editor, Debbie Kolben, asked for some advice for dealing with her daughter’s transition to being a big sister. Kveller writers Carla Naumburg, Tamara Reese, and Jordana Horn have chimed in. Here is Mayim’s contribution.
I’m not a poet but I write poetry. Mostly sad mopey existential stuff, and in the past 4 years, song lyrics for the pieces I’ve written on piano. None have I ever shared.
The poem I am sharing here today is one I wrote about 4 years ago, just weeks after my second son was born. In those weeks, my older son (not yet 3 at the time) was so sad and so distraught, and seemed so impossibly big in every way. The feelings I had for and about him ranged from pity to rage to regret to profound passionate mama love, often within 3 minutes of each other. He was never violent or angry at the baby, but as many of you know, that’s not the only way #1 shows us they are adjusting to #2. Read the rest of this entry →
Feb 29 2012
Fred is no longer nursing at night.
About six months ago, I wrote a post for Kveller about my 3-year-old’s nursing patterns. I suggest you read it before reading this one, but here’s the recap:
Fred, who is now 3 1/2, nursed on demand for the first three years of his life, including every 2-3 hours all night. We both were happy with the arrangement, my husband slept great, and, knowing Fred is my last child, I relished breastfeeding this way. Read the rest of this entry →