Nov 20 2014
OK God, I get it. I get that you’re in charge. You’re just in charge of it all, aren’t you? In charge, all-knowing, always there.
You were there when Mike and I announced our separation right here on Kveller. You were there when my get was signed and Mike handed it to me in my open hands. You were there when my car accident happened and when my hand was so hurt, and you watched over me during my surgery in the ER. You were there when I woke up and asked for my children, and you were there when I had surgery again this summer. You were there when my ex brought my kids to see me for the first time after surgery, and you were there with us in shul this Rosh Hashanah and Yom Kippur: me and my ex and our kids, davening (praying) together. You were there for all of it.
You’re in charge. You give. And apparently you take away, too. But even your taking is giving; this much I have learned to be true in these past two years.
Here’s one I want to give back to You, though: plunging the toilet. Read the rest of this entry →
Jul 3 2014
Mayim is taking a week off from blogging and social media due to surgery required for her hand, which was injured in a car accident two years ago. We are hopeful that she will be able to post using voice dictation programs, but bear with us as we navigate this next period of her recovery.
Thank you for your support and understanding.
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Apr 29 2013
I know that I have so much to be grateful for, and I am. I live in a country of democratic ideals (even though it’s not perfect), I have a roof over my head, money for food and clothing and medicine, I am in fairly good health, I am employed, I have friends and family who love me.
I’ve talked a lot here on Kveller about my religious faith, even in the face of my horrible car accident, and even in the face of doubt and fear. And I think I have realized that it is that sense of faith that helps me get through my moments/hours/days/weeks/months of despair. Read the rest of this entry →
Feb 22 2013
I have so many posts that I want to write. I’m going to write a post about the Super Bowl promo that the cast of The Big Bang Theory did. (I wore a football uniform that did not involve a football skirt since they don’t exist.) I’m going to write a post about where I’m at in this divorce mess. I also am going to write a post about what it’s like having a fancy assistant.
For now, however, I’m not going to write those posts because I continue to have tendinitis and now it’s in both hands. So Fancy Assistant Brandon is typing while I dictate and while he’s a very good typist and pleasant to be around, it’s really a major bummer to not be able to use my hands. Read the rest of this entry →
Feb 1 2013
Leaving the Svedka party.
1. I got tendinitis due to my continuing recovery from my accident and doing “too much” too soon.
2. I was “grounded” by prematurely grey hand therapist from driving my new Audi for now, since it’s a stick shift. I listen to him. I’m a compliant patient.
3. I am back to typing one-handed. Fancy Assistant Brandon may be used for me to dictate posts to for the next few weeks.
4. Back to full compression glove to manage the swelling.
5. Saw “Life of Pi.” Loved it, but highly recommend reading it, as well as Yann Martel’s other amazing novel about animals, Jews, and the profundity of existence, Beatrice and Virgil*.
6. Made my first “celebrity appearance” last night at a “Throwback Thursday” 90s pre-Valentine’s bash at a very popular LA bar, sponsored by SVEDKA Vodka (yum). It was actually pretty fun, and I got to hang out and pose for pictures with Joey Lawrence!
7. We told our sons what “divorce” means and it was actually a very gentle and loving and non-traumatic conversation. Phew.
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Jan 21 2013
My car accident was five months and a week ago. My hand is still swollen, stiff, achy, and angry. I have about 86% strength in my right (dominant) hand. I still go to hand therapy three times a week.
I finally started driving again over Thanksgiving. I have some pretty strong Post Traumatic Stress Disorder stuff going on, which I don’t say lightly. As a neuroscientist and someone who experienced a significantly traumatic event in this accident, I fully believe in the clinical aspects of PTSD and although I don’t intend to share with you the particulars of my symptoms, let’s just say that even sitting in a car was a huge step for me during Thanksgiving. And PTSD is a real and intense disorder. Seek help if you are experiencing PTSD symptoms, which you can read about here. Read the rest of this entry →
Nov 13 2012
Yes, folks. That was indeed my ungloved hand in last week’s episode of The Big Bang Theory. I unleashed it in all of its glory in the episode where my character gets into a fight with Wil Wheaton.
The hand update is that it’s getting better, not worse. I get to see the hand surgeons for check-ups every few weeks rather than every week. I can do some things with my right hand, if imperfectly. Read the rest of this entry →
Nov 9 2012
Now that the east coast is in recovery mode from Frankenstorm, it seems an appropriate time to highlight two very special firefighter paramedics I was honored to meet in August. Since we are starting to hear of some of the many stories of bravery and heroism in the wake of the storm, and since so many acts of bravery go unnoticed or unknown, I hope this serves as a sort of personal mini-testimony to how much it does matter when people choose to save others as their life’s calling.
I was involved in a serious car accident almost three months ago that injured my right hand. I have purposely not shared the medical or personal details of my injury for a lot of reasons, but I did write a rather elaborate essay about the religious aspects of the accident and my surgery and recovery, which is still ongoing. Read the rest of this entry →
Oct 25 2012
My oldest son turned 7 a few weeks ago. As I wrote about here, it was a really special and simple day and it was really lovely.
His birthday party was last weekend since every child we know also has a birthday in October and their parents snatched up all of the Sundays before and after his actual birthday but I’m not bitter it’s fine whatEVER. We hosted a few kids my son sees most days of the week at our homeschooling activities; I’d say these are his “closest” friends and he wanted a small party with the kids he sees most. Read the rest of this entry →
Oct 5 2012
Notes for my speech I wrote with my left hand. Not bad, eh?
A month and a day after the car accident that mangled my right hand, I hosted a Seudah Hoda’ah, a Feast of Thankfulness/Gratitude. Our tradition suggests that after surviving something life-theratening, we should recite the Gomel prayer in synagogue (which I did 10 days after the accident) and contribute to tzedakah.
The Seudah is another opportunity to give thanks, and I asked that people bring no gifts, no flowers, no wine, no nothing; just a check for any amount to the tzedakah of my choosing: Generosity Water, which builds wells in communities with no access to fresh water. Had I known when I set the date for the Seudah that I still would not have even a semi-functional hand, I might have put it off. But I made vegan Mac and Cheese (one-handed, requiring my husband to drain the pasta), Asian broccoli slaw with edamame and almonds (must include this in my vegan book I’m working on–it went like wildfire!), and we heated up veggie corn nuggets. Comfort food. Dessert was store-bought pareve chocolate covered almonds and peanuts. Read the rest of this entry →