Mar 13 2014
Last year, I was recently divorced when Purim fell. Purim, for those of you not in the know, is a spring holiday commemorating the near destruction and redemption of the Jewish community in Iran some 2000 years ago. For the record, it’s the Book of Esther, God’s name is curiously never mentioned in the entire Megillah that recounts it, and the hero of the story is actually a heroine named Esther. She’s awesome. Anyway.
Last year, amidst the still-clearing rubble of the mess and chaos that is divorce (even one that is managed extremely maturely and lovingly as my ex and I strive to do), my kids assumed that we would do a family costume like we always did. At that time they were 4 and 7. So we did a family costume in the middle of a divorce. We went as the cast of Tintin, with both of my boys as Tintin, my ex as the drunk Captain and me as Snowy the Dog, of course. Here’s me as Snowy in case you missed it last year. Read the rest of this entry →
Oct 31 2013
I’m not super into Halloween in general. I guess I was as a kid, but my healthy mom wouldn’t let me eat unhealthy candy much. I have some nice memories of trick-or-treating with friends with our parents supervising, but it’s just not my thing at all. And I hate being scared. Like really hate it. Like it makes me cry.
My dislike of Halloween isn’t just because I’m traditionally inclined in the religiously Jewish way, although that may have become part of it in the past 15 years. We have so many interesting and fun and meaningful and spiritually uplifting holidays in Judaism, and we also have the outrageously cool dress-up festival of Purim in the spring, and my boys have always been so gentle and shy and scared of scary things that Halloween has never been a huge thing for any of us. Read the rest of this entry →
Feb 27 2013
I wonder when parenting/my life will stop feeling like something to survive, but for today I can say with confidence and a smile on my face that we survived Purim.
As I described last week, despite the fact that we are in the middle of a divorce, our sons designed a family-themed Purim costume as they have in years past. The exact character designations changed slightly in the past week and here’s how it shook down: Fred, who is 4 and Miles, who is 7, went as everyone’s favorite French vintage comic book hero Tintin. Mike (my almost ex) went as Captain Haddock, like the fish. I still went as Snowy the Dog. Read the rest of this entry →