Feb 27 2013
I wonder when parenting/my life will stop feeling like something to survive, but for today I can say with confidence and a smile on my face that we survived Purim.
As I described last week, despite the fact that we are in the middle of a divorce, our sons designed a family-themed Purim costume as they have in years past. The exact character designations changed slightly in the past week and here’s how it shook down: Fred, who is 4 and Miles, who is 7, went as everyone’s favorite French vintage comic book hero Tintin. Mike (my almost ex) went as Captain Haddock, like the fish. I still went as Snowy the Dog. Read the rest of this entry →
Feb 19 2013
Purim is next Saturday night/Sunday. I’m getting divorced. Let me tell you what I’ve learned this Purim season: kids don’t give a good gosh darn if you’re getting divorced; they want you to show up for Purim in a family-themed costume.
Two years ago, we were all superheroes. I was Wonder Woman (tznius-style, complete with denim skirt past the knee rather than bathing suit), the elder son was Superman, the younger son was Batman, and the almost-ex was Robin. We were adorable.
Last year, we were cowboys. Also adorable. Read the rest of this entry →
Feb 14 2013
Both of my boys were sick this past weekend. Thank God, nothing bad, not the flu, just high fever, runny, lethargic, and fitful all night and most of the day as well. I was alone with the boys, with my tendinitis hand and my low patience, which seems to be the tagline to my life right now: “Mayim Bialik: Actress, Neuroscientist, Low Patience.”
Here are the high points and low points, presented alternately, so as to spread out the bad and sprinkle them with good.
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Feb 12 2013
I am in the middle of a divorce. We’re in the home stretch and I have chosen to keep pretty much all of the details private for a few reasons.
What I want to share, however, are some of the things I have used as my personal guiding principles and tools, as it were, as I navigate divorce. Let’s call these “Mayim’s Tools for Divorce.”
1. Put the kids first. They didn’t ask for this. They will have a hard enough time coping with the irrevocable loss of their intact home; they don’t need more drama than already exists for them. Even if they’ll be better off in two happy unfighting homes than one unhappy fighting home, divorce sucks for kids. Period. I kept pictures of my boys all over my house and dressing room during this period so I constantly am reminded of them in this whole mess as I negotiate contracts and such. Read the rest of this entry →
Feb 6 2013
Look ma, no nummies!
Well, nay-sayers, prepare to be proven wrong. All of you snarky mamas who glared at me nursing my 3 1/2-year-old on the NYC subway, prepare to be amazed. And to all of my family and friends who wanted to chastise me about nursing a walking, talking, thinking, laughing little man named Fred, thanks for holding your tongues.
Because we did it. Fred isn’t going to nurse on his way down the wedding aisle or at his high school graduation. I didn’t need to break him of a “habit” and teach him “who’s in charge.” I didn’t need to set boundaries you thought I should have set when I didn’t want to set them.
Because we did it: Fred weaned.
Fred weaned this past Thanksgiving, exactly a year from his night-weaning Thanksgiving of 2011, which I initiated reluctantly–and as gently as I could, and days before I released the public statement that I was getting divorced. Read the rest of this entry →
Jan 21 2013
My car accident was five months and a week ago. My hand is still swollen, stiff, achy, and angry. I have about 86% strength in my right (dominant) hand. I still go to hand therapy three times a week.
I finally started driving again over Thanksgiving. I have some pretty strong Post Traumatic Stress Disorder stuff going on, which I don’t say lightly. As a neuroscientist and someone who experienced a significantly traumatic event in this accident, I fully believe in the clinical aspects of PTSD and although I don’t intend to share with you the particulars of my symptoms, let’s just say that even sitting in a car was a huge step for me during Thanksgiving. And PTSD is a real and intense disorder. Seek help if you are experiencing PTSD symptoms, which you can read about here. Read the rest of this entry →
Dec 28 2012
Not that I was reading comments, because I don’t, but I did happen to see a comment as I went to post something the other day which I wanted to write about.
The comment was snarky (surprise surprise) and it was about Attachment Parenting. It said, “How could you practice AP as a single mom? Hmmmm?”
Well, I’m going to go ahead and answer this despite my eye-rolling at the snark factor.
The principles of Attachment Parenting are generally accepted as:
1. Educated birth choices, emphasizing the significance of an unmedicated birth.
2. Breastfeeding and educated bottlefeeding. Read the rest of this entry →
Dec 26 2012
My vegan Big Mac.
Merry Jury Duty. Yes, even celebrities have to do jury duty. I have a fancy lawyer and asked him if I have to do it, and he said I have to do it. I have actor friends like Jim Parsons and producer friends like Bill Prady and they said I have to do it.
The only week starting with a Monday I could guarantee I was not working was this very week. That’s right: Mayim Bialik has jury duty the week of Christmas. Ridiculous, right? ‘Tis. But true. And while we’re on this thought train, can you imagine Amy Farrah Fowler on a jury panel sitting right next to you, asking you to not think about her being spanked by Sheldon or getting a tiara? It’s absurd. Read the rest of this entry →
Nov 21 2012
After much consideration and soul-searching, Michael and I have arrived at the decision to divorce due to “Irreconcilable Differences.”
Divorce is terribly sad, painful and incomprehensible for children. It is not something we have decided lightly.
The hands-on style of parenting we practice played no role in the changes that led to this decision; relationships are complicated no matter what style of parenting you choose.
The main priority for us now is to make the transition to two loving homes as smooth and painless as possible. Our sons deserve parents committed to their growth and health and that’s what we are focusing on. Our privacy has always been important and is even more so now, and we thank you in advance for respecting it as we negotiate this new terrain.
We will be ok.