Dec 30 2013
I hope everyone had a lovely Christmas week, however you spent it. I myself saw a few movies and ate Chinese food.
Here’s what my next few weeks look like: I’m taking my sons to Israel! We leave in a few days and we’ll be gone 10 days. On my mother’s side of the family, I have an aunt, uncle, four cousins, and about 20 children of my cousins living throughout the West Bank. I also have an aunt, uncle, and cousins who live on a secular kibbutz. On my father’s side, I also have a few cousins, including my cousin who I learn with on the phone, who made aliyah about five years ago.
Here’s the plan:
1. Rent a Car Read the rest of this entry →
Dec 27 2013
As the resident Kveller Contributing Editors Who Are Divorced & Not Remarried, Sarah Tuttle-Singer and I took issue with Sarah Buttenwieser’s recent post about envying divorced people and wishing for a 48-hour “break” from marriage.
No, we have not lost our sense of humor–or irony–just because we are divorced. No, we don’t literally think everyone envies us and doesn’t understand the complexity and pain we have gone through.
Both Sarah and I did not arrive at the divorce decision lightly. It was not the “first resort” for either of us. It was not done lightly and without acknowledgment of the tremendous strain it would put on our children and the tremendous amount of shifting of priorities that our lives would entail as divorced moms. But we digress. Read the rest of this entry →
Dec 19 2013
As I’ve written about here before, my ex converted to Judaism before we got married and his mother converted to Judaism after we got married. My ex’s father still celebrates Christmas and our sons have visited him and his wife every Christmas of their lives. This Christmas experience has, for them, not been a religious one, but rather a festive meal not unlike Thanksgiving; a pretty tree decorated with, among other things, Star Trek ornaments, and more gifts than they get for Hanukkah.
It is very clear to my sons that we don’t celebrate Christmas and that we honor their grandparents who do celebrate Christmas by visiting them on December 25th.
I respect Christmas in all of its forms of celebration and I do not begrudge people celebrating Christmas. Here’s why I’m not bummed out that I don’t. Read the rest of this entry →
Dec 17 2013
1. It’s “The Hobbit”
It’s the story of a hobbit on a mission with a magic ring in his pocket. There are elves, there are dwarves, there are evil orcs, there’s a dragon! These are the kinds of things that are good in a movie.
I like a movie with sword fights and weird weapons. No guns, no bombs, just weapons.
3. A Journey
As J.R.R. Tolkien knew, the story of a journey is a captivating one. There are obstacles and there are moments of perseverance and courage. “The Hobbit” is a personal journey as well as a collective one. Whether you’re a fan of the Bible, contemporary psychoanalysis, or “The Hobbit,” the notion of a journey can and should appeal to you! Read the rest of this entry →
Dec 13 2013
1. Show Time
This was one of the rare episodes we did not film at our normal taping hour. Because of the number of small scenes and flashbacks, we filmed for two long days in front of small groups of audiences who were rotated according to their tour schedules of the Warner Brothers lot. I missed a regular tape time with the anticipation and excitement of a few hundred people in the audience, but we made do with our smaller audiences very well!
If I’m not mistaken, I believe I’m the only one from the eight of us in the show last night (the Stuart character was in the episode along with the regular seven of us) who has never decorated a Christmas tree. Sure, I’ve been to homes that have Christmas trees and I vaguely remember stringing popcorn and cranberries for my friend Sara’s Christmas tree when we were in 7th grade, but I grew up in a home with no Christmas tree and really enjoyed watching it done for this episode! I think the tinsel is pretty and the lights are pretty too. The ornaments are neat and I would imagine it is fun to hang them all and arrange them all. I don’t wish I had a Christmas tree, but I’m also very comfortable enjoying the process from afar. Read the rest of this entry →
Dec 11 2013
I got nominated for a Screen Actors Guild Award!
This is a huge deal because:
1. There isn’t a Supporting Actress category and I am a supporting actress person. You can tell by my salary and by the proportion of plot lines and a bunch of other stuff that designates actresses as lead versus supporting. But I broke on in to this category and it’s insane!
2. SAG is an organization of my peers. It’s actors voting and actors nominating and that makes it such a huge honor. The politics of the Emmys are so complicated and the voters are not all actors, but to be acknowledged by actors is the biggest compliment of all. It’s insane!
3. Jim Parsons and “The Big Bang Theory” show were also nominated. I am so happy for Jim and for our show, but it’s extra special amazing insane to be a nominee along with Jim and our show. It’s very special. And it’s insane!
4. Now I will be extra nervous that night! It’s insane!
I already have a gorgeous dress in the works and I think it’s perfect for me as a nominee. (Yes, there are dresses that are more nominee-appropriate than others, believe it or not.) I don’t think I have ever been as excited about a dress as I am about this one, and that’s really nice to know that I am feeling less stressed about the dress than usual so I can be stressed about the nomination as my main focal point of anxiety.
Now I really have to make sure my heels aren’t too high. Because it’s one thing for me to trip and fall on the red carpet, but it’s a whole other thing for me as a nominee to trip and fall on the red carpet.
It’s insane. I am so grateful and excited. Thank you, SAG!
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Dec 9 2013
Recently, Kveller has been running a series of posts with professional sleep coach Batya Sherizen, in which she answers readers’ questions about issues they are having with their children’s sleep. I’m not a professional sleep coach and I respect people like Batya, but there are actually other perspectives on sleep, and I wanted to share some of the “other side.” I speak from the perspective of someone who got (free) sleep advice from people who don’t support sleep training and I also come from my training as a Certified Lactation Educator Counselor. Some of us don’t prescribe to sleep training, especially for the first year, and especially if you are breastfeeding. Here’s why.
I wrote a book a few years ago called Beyond the Sling. It was a very straightforward, very honest, very accurate portrayal of what Attachment Parenting looked like in my home. More specifically, there were chapters on my experiences with natural birth and homebirth, breastfeeding on demand as well as extended breastfeeding, not using harsh discipline or punitive discipline, the magic of baby-wearing, and other such enthralling AP-related topics.
And of course there was a chapter on sleep. Sleep training and sleep management is one of the most profitable and difficult topics for new parents. I chose to safely co-sleep with my sons, participating in the subset of co-sleeping known as bed-sharing. That means my sons and I shared–and still share on many nights–a sleeping surface. As I discuss in my book, this arrangement is not for everyone and it is most certainly not for people who cannot or will not abide by the rules of safe co-sleeping. However, from my experience as a mother of two breastfeeding and securely attached children, as well as a Certified Lactation Educator Counselor (C.L.E.C.), I have a lot of things to say about babies and sleep.
Here are the reasons why I don’t believe in sleep training. If you want to be conservative about the matter, these beliefs of mine hold most strongly for children under 6 months of age. Read the rest of this entry →
Dec 5 2013
Since the last night of Hanukkah was last night, today is technically the 8th day of Hanukkah. Here are my top 10 photos of my Hanukkah, including some highlights from Thanksgiving, which coincided with Hanukkah this year.
1. As I discussed here last week, my parents hosted Thanksgivukkah dinner. Here is the name card that was at my seat at the table. Note the Jewish star name card holder and the Thanksgiving and Hanukkah stickers adorning it. It should be noted that there were only six of us at dinner, but I think it’s kind of adorable that my mother insists on making name cards just the same.
2. Here is my mother’s perfect fusion of Thanksgiving and Hanukkah: a Hanukkah placemat with Thanksgiving paper plates and napkins.
3. Ditto. Read the rest of this entry →
Dec 2 2013
A still from the video of the Maccabeat’s cover of Matisyahu’s “Miracle.”
Since Hanukkah fell on Thanksgiving this year–or did Thanksgiving fall on Hanukkah rather!?–I wanted to share eight things I am thankful for so far this Hanukkah. Context: I just got back from the weekend with my ex and our sons at my ex’s mom’s house. All of us together. In one house. For three nights. Cozy wozy, indeed.
1. I am grateful that my ex and I communicate so well, even when it’s hard. We planned the gifts, the travel, the meals; everything together.
2. In my dreams I would do a “No-Gifts” Hanukkah, but in reality, the ex and I made modest choices that suited both of us not perfectly, but reasonably. We chose medium and small gifts our boys truly have been wanting and will hopefully enjoy for a long time.
3. I love celebrating Hanukkah with my ex’s mom who converted to Judaism from Mormonism about six years ago. She is such an inquisitive Jew, and she studies more Torah and Talmud than most Jews from any denomination that I know. She makes a mean latke and even buys vegan sour cream for me to smear on mine. And she doesn’t even complain about how every Jewish food is destined to make us all fat, and her kitchen stove top all greasy. Read the rest of this entry →
Nov 25 2013
To watch the booty swatting scene from “A Drunken Thanksgiving,” click here.
1. In the original draft of the script, there was no booty swatting. I can’t remember exactly what was in its place. It was some other awkward/inappropriate drunk Sheldon comment to Amy, but the swatting was added a few days into rehearsal.
2. This is not the first time that Sheldon has smacked Amy’s bum and I have a feeling it won’t be the last. The first and most memorable time was in the “Amy’s Sick” episode. Read the rest of this entry →