Sep 25 2013
I have written a lot about Jewish women and feminism and what it means to both advocate for women in a patriarchal society as well as advocate for women who appreciate halakhic structure in their lives. I consider myself both a feminist in the classical sense and a woman who appreciates halakhic Judaism in the classical sense. Sure, it’s an unusual mix, but you know what? There are no rules about how any of us “should” be.
I don’t shave my legs and never have but I also like covering my head in synagogue and praying separately from men by a mehitzah (divider). I hate misogyny and patriarchy and feel oppressed by it daily, but I also celebrate the distinctions of sexuality and modesty that Judaism lays out for men and women. I love Hilary Clinton and Gloria Steinem but I also love Maimonides and all of the Sages of Judaism who lived in times when women had no voices. Read the rest of this entry →
Aug 29 2013
Me in my modest bathing suit.
You know how before you have kids, you’re an expert on kids and parenting and what everyone should or shouldn’t be doing with their kids? Well, in the same vein, I have two boys and so I think I am in the perfect position to discuss what to do with female children. In particular, female children who want to wear bikinis, as Rebecca Schorr’s recent post on Kveller discussed.
Rabbi Schorr explains that one aspect of her “no bikini” rule derives from Judaism’s concept of tznius, or modesty. As I have discussed at length in my posts about why I choose to embrace certain aspects of tznius, when we guard what parts of ourselves we show, we leave a lot to the imagination of others in a safe way and we learn to develop aspects of ourself that are often not encouraged to develop when people are busy looking at our outsides. “The glory of the King’s daughter is inside” is the pasuk (verse) that is often quoted in this context, but it goes for men as well as women. And as a person who spends much of my life as a public person being observed, judged, and picked apart for how I look, I have come more and more to appreciate the healthy sense of protection that tznius provides me. Read the rest of this entry →
Mar 4 2013
Many of you may have seen The Big Bang Theory Super Bowl promo that our cast participated in. I believe it aired in the first 10 minutes or so of play in this year’s Super Bowl. The promo featured the entire cast of The Big Bang Theory swaggering down a smokey hallway, all decked out in football gear. The punchline was that Leonard was wearing his pads and jockstrap on the outside of his uniform. Read the rest of this entry →
Jan 10 2013
Here’s my Top 7 Moments from last night’s People’s Choice Awards.
1. Dress Snafu. As I mentioned in my last post, the dress I was supposed to wear to the People’s Choice Awards last night was pulled at the last minute for reasons only my stylist and the makers of the dress can tussle over. It was not a good thing, but since I am so “whatever,” I reassured stylist Ali that I had faith that we’d figure something out and I reminded her that I never freak out about stuff like this, thanks to my deep religious sensibility that everything is exactly how it should be in God’s world and there’s nothing urgent or life-threatening except things that are urgent or life-threatening. (That’s not sarcasm, I really mean it.)
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Jan 9 2013
As we all know, it’s officially the month of awards! Maybe you didn’t know; I forget every darn January. I’ll get you up to date:
The People’s Choice Awards are tonight (we are nominated for best show), the Golden Globe Awards are Sunday (we are nominated for best show), and the Screen Actors Guild Awards are in two Sundays (we are nominated for best show). There are no Supporting Actress categories at any of these awards shows so sadly, I’m not nominated. But it’s okay. With how stressful it was for me at the last Emmys, maybe it’s best I get a break this month…
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Sep 10 2012
The search for this year’s Emmy dress is already going much smoother than last year’s search.
One reason is that I have a stylist named Ali who I really like, who understands me and my fashion needs, and who isn’t afraid to be honest with me. She’s also not freaked out by all of my weird Jewish modesty clothing issues. As I described in my last post about the search for my Emmy dress, I sent my stylist some images of classic Hollywood dresses, classic paintings depicting dresses I like, and pictures of Hollywood actresses in dresses I like. Then, I waited.
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Aug 29 2012
Inspiration for my dress: John Singer Sargent's Lady Agnew
After the initial hysteria about my Emmy nomination abated and after my parents stopped crying with joy and after I returned from Atlanta, which is where I was when I found out I got nominated, my thoughts turned to the practicalities of Emmy night. Namely, what was I going to wear?
Last year I wrote a very in depth four-part series entitled Operation Hot and Holy, detailing my search for a tznius (modest) Emmy dress. When all was said and done, I ended up with a dress that I loved last year, but as my set of essays described, the journey there was long, complicated, and full of dresses that revealed more of me than I prefer to.
This year, I have a stylist I love, a nomination to my name, and hopefully the search will be easier. Here’s where we’re at dress-wise. Read the rest of this entry →
Aug 22 2012
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After my first son was born, I started studying Jewishly (with what’s called a chevrusa) through Partners in Torah. PIT sets you up (for free!) with a study partner matched to your interest and experience and together, you and your chevrusa decide what you want to study.
My chevrusa (Jewinthecity.com is her online personality; celebrity chevrusa, right!?) and I decided to systematically tackle every misconception I had about Orthodoxy. Meaning: she asked me what I disliked, felt weird about, or just plain didn’t understand or thought was crazy/primitive/wacky about Orthodoxy and then we studied the basis for the thing, uncovering what was halakha (Jewish law) and what was custom, what was fact and what was myth. Read the rest of this entry →
Jul 9 2012
My hotel bed!
My husband and I took our kids on a proper family resort vacation last week. We went to this awesome isolated place called Villa del Palmar in Loreto, Baja. It had shallow pools and entertainment (including a night of traditional regional Mexican dancing and carnival games…we won a scary but awesome Mexican marionette).
It was as hectic a vacation as one might expect with an almost 4- and almost 7-year-old, but it was also really beautiful, the spa was awesome, and I got wrapped in Sea of Cortez mud and everything. Read the rest of this entry →
May 24 2012
This is going to be the post that people speak of if God forbid I ever have a mini-breakdown, or a major one for that matter.
It’s been a long week. It’s been a long few weeks. It’s been a big couple of months.
My book came out in March which was very hectic and fun and good. Then TIME magazine came out and a whole new set of publicity was thrust at me. CNN and NPR Affiliates and Anderson Cooper came calling, and there were all of these amazing opportunities to talk about my book, about the natural physiology of mammalian parenting, and breastfeeding. It’s good. But it’s also led to a tremendous amount of negative comments and insults being hurled at me through articles written about me, or referencing me. I wrote about it here, because it’s kind of been intense in my world. Read the rest of this entry →