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May 21 2014

Mayim Bialik: Yes, I Have Regrets As A Mother

By at 12:02 pm


Tova Ross’ post last week titled “Why Do So Many Moms Regret Having Kids?” really upset me. I respect her as a writer and mother and mean no disrespect to her in any way. She wrote about the recent internet “trend” (I hate to call it that; it’s more of a consequence of the internet existing as a place to share dark things anonymously I suppose) of women posting their regrets about having children. I believe that Tova meant well with her post, and she declared that she wasn’t sure what her point was, except to say that she felt sorry for women who have these regrets and even sorrier for their children. Ouch.

Tova acknowledged that she has sympathy for women who long for their single days, or long for time alone, but she recommends that if those thoughts are not “fleeting” then there may be something very wrong. Double ouch.

I read some of the comments posted in response to Tova’s piece on Kveller, and I was relieved to see women posting that they have regrets that are not fleeting, but that they don’t feel they are bad mothers because of it. I fear that a divorced woman such as myself has little right to share my thoughts on this topic, since if I express regrets, the reader might simply say, “Oh, well, her life didn’t turn out like she wanted, so of course she has regrets.” Read the rest of this entry →

Mar 14 2013

Five Things I Don’t Understand About Sheryl Sandberg & Marissa Mayer

By at 11:53 am

sheryl sandbergWith the publication of the Sheryl Sandberg’s book, Lean In, and the related decision by Yahoo’s CEO Marissa Mayer to no longer allow working from home (she herself returned to work two weeks postpartum albeit with a nursery built for her son next to her office) there has been a lot of “feminist” stuff swirling around the media and my head. And it’s getting crowded in there.

I want to share some things that I have been considering. Mind you, these are just thoughts. The issues at hand are so broad, so complex, and so overwhelming, that I have decided to just throw out there my initial thoughts and reactions to the media storm swirling and see what happens next.

Here are “Five Things That Currently Don’t Make Sense To Me.” Read the rest of this entry →

Jan 17 2012

The Big Bang Theory, According to Mayim

By at 4:07 pm
mayim bialik on big bang theory

Image Credit: Sonja Flemming/CBS

We all know and love Mayim Bialik from the days of Blossom, but as mature, responsible adults, we also need to accept the fact that she is no longer the awesome hat-wearing young lady she once was. And now, she’s even better! As Amy Farrah Fowler on The Big Bang Theory, Mayim is in the spotlight once again, only this time, she’s also a working mother, an actual scientist, and a writer. The following are some of our favorite posts that take us behind the scenes of The Big Bang Theory, and the life of a working mother.

1. Pumping on the Set of The Big Bang Theory

In which Mayim reveals how she manages to be a full-time mom, neuroscience teacher, homeschooler, and actress on the #1 rated comedy on television. Hint: with a breast pump, and a sign that says, “Knock first PLEASE!”

2. So Your Kid Wants to be an Actor? Tough Noogie!

In which Mayim warns you that if you choose to pursue your child’s dream of becoming a professional actor, there will be a lot of driving, schlepping, intimidation, and disappointment involved.

3. Studying on the Set of The Big Bang Theory

In which Mayim uses the downtime while on set to study Torah, the laws of Shabbat cooking, women and feminism in Judaism, and more, thus causing everyone to think twice about playing Solitaire on your lunch break.

4. I Went to Work on Sukkot

In which Mayim is required to work on the first two days of Sukkot, but still manages to make it work for her by doing things like dressing fancy, hiring a car service, and abstaining from technology.

5. Mayim Bialik on the Isolation Permutation

In which Mayim breaks down one of the series’ most highly rated episodes, how she learned to play “Everybody Hurts” on the harp, and explains why she doesn’t like watching herself on TV.

About Mayim

Mayim Bialik is the grandchild of immigrants from Eastern Europe and the mother of two young boys. She is best known for her lead role in the 1990s NBC sitcom Blossom, as well as her current role as Amy Farrah Fowler on CBS' The Big Bang Theory.

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