Time out isn’t really working in your home, is it? It’s OK. You can admit it. Because you aren’t alone. In my experience as a family coach, time-out is rarely a five minute affair. It’s…usually 20 minutes of wrangling a child to a specific chair and struggling to keep said child in that chair. Alternatively, parents banish children to their rooms but then have to wrestle the door knob to ensure the child doesn’t escape before finishing the exile. This is not how time-out was intended. Time-out is an… >> Read More
It's every parents' nightmare, the kind of thing explored with some exaggeration in horror films and books—you give birth to a kid who turns out to be a "bad seed" from the start.
Turns out…there's actually a real set of characteristic that define a group referred to as "callous children." This callousness precedes genuine psychopathy in adults. the inability to feel empathy. And, though of course upbringing has a part to play, the condition also has a scientific basis, according to a chilling but super-fascinating article in the Atlantic, "When… >> Read More
My son’s tooth sits on the counter and I catch myself staring at it. I haven’t put it away with the other teeth or lost it like a few others before. I keep staring at this tooth, a sign of…his youth, a symbol of all the potential that he can become. I stare at this tooth, and I am filled with sorrow and rage. Sorrow for the pain and hurt that my son has endured, and rage for how my son has been written off by his own school. >> Read More
My toddler is generally a well-behaved, albeit rambunctious little boy. But man, there are certain things that just always seem to instantly set him off. For the most part, I really don't get why…these things bug him so much, and most of them are pretty much unavoidable. In no particular order, here are the top 10 things that are pretty much guaranteed to induce a tantrum. >> Read More
Grocery shopping with kids is always an adventure--sometimes amusing and other times downright traumatic, like the time I sat the children in front of a television in the food court, grabbed three…slices of pizza, and returned to find my kids openmouthed and watching a man commit suicide in a Tarantino film. (Apparently someone had changed the channel despite store policy. We received balloons and free cookies that day which made everything better. Well, not really.) As a divorced, working mom I simply do not have the… >> Read More