To the women in my life,
Enough with the thank you notes!
Though our means of communication—phone, email, text, video, social media—have expanded dramatically over the past 25 years,…etiquette and social pressure seemingly dictates that the only proper way to truly say thank you is by sitting down to handwrite a card (preferably on some sort of personalized stationery or at least thick paper stock) and then send it through the mail. Recently, Kveller writer Samantha Taylor wrote why she “tortures” her kids… >> Read More
If you have ever purchased a present for my children or me, I have two words for you: thank you. You haven’t just heard me say those words, you’ve read them in a handwritten thank you note. My…mother taught me the importance of writing thank you notes when I was young. She walked me through the process every time I received a gift, until eventually I was able to complete them on my own. All three of my kids just had birthdays, so it’s been a thank you note factory over here.… >> Read More
I can remember as a teenager sitting around the Thanksgiving table and being asked to say what I was grateful for.
I rolled my eyes in protest of such a trivial exercise and rattled off a list of…things I thought I was supposed to be grateful for: my family, my health, food, and shelter. And then I waited for my brothers to spout off things like farting and Nintendo before we could eat. At that time in my life I was selfish and entitled. Nothing was ever enough, teenage angst prevailed, and… >> Read More
Cara's post yesterday about why she hates writing thank you cards angered quite a few of you. Tamara shot back that it's a "mitzvah" to write the notes and another commenter said it was "hakarat…hatov," recognizing the good that another has done you. Where do you stand? I am the mother of a 6 week old, as well as two boys, 6 and 7. I am a very busy freelance writer for various publications and websites. I am writing a novel. I am intellectually neat, but physically messy. I… >> Read More