My 10-year wedding anniversary with my husband was approaching, and for the first time since we had kids, almost eight and a half years ago, we were taking a real vacation without them. We were going…to Jamaica. Of course, there was the anxiety about flying without the three kids and about their well-being while we were away. We had them split between my parents, my in-laws, and my sister-in-law, and on certain days, the kids were split with each other for the week. These arrangements took more time and energy… >> Read More
I am tired. My day starts before dawn, and I’m showered and dressed before the sun has a chance to rise. I make lunches and snacks and a vat of strong coffee. I change the 2-year-old’s diaper and…wake up the 4-year-old and convince both my children that yes, it is necessary to wear clothes. Una the Unicorn has gone missing, and the 4-year-old’s lip wobbles dangerously. Neither child wants to eat the waffles they insisted on me making minutes before. My husband and I load two children into the car and buckle… >> Read More
With our 8-year wedding anniversary coming up (whoa!), my husband and I were talking the other day about going out to celebrate. We were trying to decide on a dinner spot when suddenly he asked,…"Actually, when's the last time we went out by ourselves, period?" I thought about it and realized: The last time we'd gone out on a real date was... our 7-year anniversary. Almost an entire year ago. Now I know we're not the only couple whose dating habits have changed drastically since having a child. We… >> Read More
My husband and I just celebrated a milestone anniversary--our 40th.
We married when we were 21 and 22, respectively, after meeting five years before in summer camp. In my senior year of high…school, even while dating other people, I knew I wanted to marry him. I didn’t have a “list” or set of criteria like so many women seem to have now. I didn’t analyze, intellectualize, or speculate on his earning potential or what kind of father he would be. I just jumped, taking a leap of… >> Read More
About a week ago, a friend posted on her Facebook page: “Happy Houseiversary!”
She and her family had been living in their new home for a year (a home that happens to be across the road from…my home. Hi, Lori!) I saw Lori’s post, checked the calendar, and immediately felt shame. Just a week before Lori’s houseiversary, we had a houseiversary, too. It’s just that I hadn’t noticed. I didn’t mention it to my husband, and he didn’t mention it to me. I didn’t post it on Facebook, or give it… >> Read More