Is it true this is the last gefilte post ever?
Dear Gefilte and all Gefilte lovers,
Yes, ‘tis sad but true. This fish needs to swim into new…unchartered waters. I have had an amazing time bobbing around here, and I am so grateful for the chance to listen and learn from your questions. In fact, this is not a farewell column, but a thank you column. Thank you to all who’ve sent me your thoughts, questions, dreams, and confusion. Thank you for… >> Read More
How do I know when, how, and why to get married?
Who’s Boomer, you ask?
Mr. Gefilte asks me that on…a weekly basis. The short answer is, he was a sweet guy from my writing/drinking group back in the days before I got married. The things I remember about him are that he knew how to throw back a few beers and write stories about father-son strife. I didn’t know Boomer well. Certainly not well… >> Read More
Confessing this is not easy, but I need advice desperately. I found someone that I love very much, but he’s married. He has no idea I feel this way and nothing has happened…between us. The one time we touched was when he handed me a key to the supply cabinet (we work together). He is a great guy, very smart and funny, and he gets me, which is rare. (I consider myself very nerdy and awkward.) I never thought I would ever fall for someone else's husband. We… >> Read More
I never considered myself an angry person before now. But lately, I feel like everything makes me mad—my kids, the weather, this insane presidential election. By the end of the day…I feel myself shaking with rage. Do you have any advice besides deep breaths and channeling my inner lotus? -Grrrr Dear Grrrr, You don’t scare me. Neither does your anger. I am not a doctor nor do I play one on TV, but I would prescribe: -24 hours of no news feed -four glasses of… >> Read More
I am 21 and I want to convert to Modern Orthodox Judaism. It makes me feel like a better person; it gives me strength and compassion. I’ve faced skepticism, and as a woman…sometimes even hidden discrimination, but it never managed to keep me away and has actually encouraged me to work for change. Unfortunately, my family doesn’t feel the same—they’re practicing Catholics, and my mother once told me she would rather celebrate my funeral than watch me convert. I live with my family and I’m studying at… >> Read More