On the anniversary of my mother's death this past April, there was no Facebook remembrance, no photo of my beautiful, smiling mother on Instagram, and not one #RIP tweet bearing her name. A few of my…dearest friends remembered the date and texted that they were thinking of me. It’s been more than seven years since my mom died, and even as I miss her daily and dearly, life has gone on—as it tends to do, even after the worst has happened. My mother died 12 weeks after a surprising stage-four… >> Read More
We've all lost someone important to us, and it's one of the hardest, yet most universal, experiences in life. Of course, the best thing we can do is support each other and never let anyone deal with…loss alone. And naturally, that's the entire point of reciting kaddish--it forces mourners to join others. READ: Mayim Bialik: Navigating Life as a Mourner But even ancient prayers need a makeover every once in a while. Nili Isenberg brilliantly set the Mourner's Kaddish to the tune of Adele's "Hello." Listen to the song below, and pass it on to anyone… >> Read More
Disclaimer: There are NO spoilers about season 9 in this post at all. It's safe to proceed as long as you saw Season 8's season finale!
And it began with a bang.
It's been a long summer. My father…passed away in April, so I spent the summer sort of picking myself up off of the ground in many ways. I am reciting Kaddish as much as my schedule allows, and now that the summer is over and I am on a more regular schedule, I will get to go with more regularity. I spent… >> Read More
Today is Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day. Over the years, many of our writers have written poignantly about the heartrending experience of losing a child or pregnancy. For those who…have experienced that pain, we hope these stories will resonate, provide comfort, and offer helpful suggestions for processing the loss. For those who haven't, this might help you comfort a friend who has. Here is a roundup of the most relevant articles from Kveller and our friends at Modern Loss about pregnancy and infant loss: 1. 17 Things to… >> Read More
When a Kveller reader recently sought advice on finding a Jewish ritual for mourning the passing of her cat, I wrote off the request as being outside of the boundaries of normative Jewish practice.…Judaism’s elaborate and meaningful mourning rituals and practices are for people, not pets. I felt that saying kaddish or observing the yahrzeit of a pet, no matter how beloved, would somehow take away from the meaning and power of these customs and laws. And then our beloved guinea pig Caramel died. Caramel was no ordinary… >> Read More