Before I had kids, it took a lot to get me riled up. Sure, I’d get angry if someone hurt my feelings or broke my heart. But I rarely raised my voice, and certainly never yelled at the source of my…pain in the moment. Instead, I managed my emotions the way anyone who loathes confrontation would: I’d just write in my journal, or draft an email that I’d never send. Then I became a mother to two small humans with big personalities, and managing all my emotions via the written word just wasn’t a practical… >> Read More
In the middle of a tirade, I looked over at my small child and saw that she had her hands over her ears.
I was yelling so loudly that my 4-year-old daughter was scared of me.
I am not a yeller,…I swear. I did not grow up in a family that yelled, and I am not married to someone who yells. I am more familiar with pouting, silent treatment, passive aggressive snarky remarks, or just no action at all. Yelling is almost foreign to me. And yet, when my beautiful, passionate, funny, charming daughter decided… >> Read More
I had just finished cleaning the house from top to bottom. I was tired and cranky, feeling underappreciated and premenstrual. After dinner my 5-year-old asked to be excused. I was washing up the baby…and I asked him to please hold tight for a minute so I could wipe his hands before he got down. I turned around to rinse the cloth and turned back around to see that, mid-(impatient)-tantrum, he had dumped an entire glass of milk all over the table. It was dripping down both sides of… >> Read More
There have been a few times so far in my life where I have taken my kids on an outing and everything works out perfectly: the birds chirp and the sun shines, I’ve miraculously packed enough…snacks, and the kids behave like mensches . Perhaps most importantly, there are eyewitnesses to note my kids’ wonderful behavior and shoot me admiring looks for this Gisele-like scene of perfect parenting. Listen, we all need a little external feedback sometimes for emotional validation. Even if you’re Gisele. These rare occasions have falsely instilled a… >> Read More
All the parenting news you probably didn’t have time to read this week.
- The Internet, Netflix, fast food, and other forms of "instant gratification" are changing the way today's kids view…time and demands. This New York Times piece sheds light on the competitive nature of television networks and its effect on today's "on demand" children. (NY Times) - One in three women has an abortion by the age of 45, but how many people actually talk about it? New York Magazine features 26 women with… >> Read More