Dr. Gary Matloff is a licensed psychologist, and a proud single, Jewish adoptive father to a pair of brothers, now 13 and 16 years old. He is the author of See You Tomorrow... Reclaiming the Beacon of Hope. He also narrates a blog that serves as a source of inspiration for parents of children who were adopted at an older age, or who have advanced in age from when they were adopted. Visit his website at www.psyched4kids.com.
I'll never forget the explosive temper tantrum my oldest son, at 12 years old, had only a couple of months after I adopted him and his younger brother. I innocently thought we'd skip lunch in favor…of a quick snack and an early dinner out on the road. He wasn’t happy with this decision, and the language barrier between us proved detrimental, with his still having trouble beginning to learn English. Without being able to quickly communicate my thoughts and intentions that might have reassured him, his deepest, most suppressed fears… >> Read More
Recently I was nominated for the state association’s School Psychologist of the Year award. When the awards’ committee chairperson encouraged the nominees to bring their family to the ceremony,…I casually broached the topic at dinner. My 13-year-old first said, “Nah, I’m good,” but after asking a couple of questions about the award, he said, “Yeah, I can make that happen.” My 16-year-old replied, “Meh. I want my me time.” He begrudgingly ended up changing his tune weeks later, claiming that he did want… >> Read More
We were walking out to the car after Yom Kippur services when my son Matheus, 14 years old at the time, unexpectedly broke the silence and asked, with a tinge of exasperation in his voice, "Father,…when can I go to church?" It had only been a few months past our first anniversary since I'd adopted him and his younger brother from Brazil. Up until then, Matheus had mostly kept to himself any thoughts he might have had about his religious inclinations. His brother had decided that he wanted to become… >> Read More
My son's bar mitzvah was three years in the making--ever since he told me his "good news": that he “wanted to be Jewish." This was only about nine months after I adopted him and his older brother…from Brazil, as they were turning 9 and 12 years old. Though he had barely mastered the English language, my son Davi was anxious to start learning yet another language... and Hebrew, no less. To change over from their previous beliefs in and practices of the Christian faith in favor of becoming Jewish was not… >> Read More