Rachel is a recent Jew-by-choice beginning her journey to parenthood. She is a transplant from the south who came to NYC to attend Columbia University and never went back. She lives in Long Island with her wife and two cats, and is a clinical social worker at a foster care agency in the Bronx. Rachel enjoys writing both about her experience on the path toward same-sex conception as well as her experiences as a newborn Jew. She anticipates an interesting collision of these two worlds as she raises a family within a culture where she often still feels like an immigrant.
After four failed cycles of intrauterine insemination, my wife and I conceived a few months ago. We’re elated, but during the time leading up to our pregnancy, we faced much uncertainty and anxiety.…Before beginning insemination, I was tested for every possible fertility barrier and all of the test results were negative. This was a mixed blessing, since my insurance would have covered the $1900 per cycle process fully if I’d had even the slightest issue. But of course I was grateful for my health. That was an… >> Read More
Last fall, I watched a reality show on MTV (whose target population is, of course, adolescents) called "Generation Cryo," in which a lesbian couple's daughter went on a search for her sperm donor…and her biological half-siblings. Not only was I fascinated at learning how this impacted the different children and how a parent could best support them, but I was so moved at the realization that "donor kids" around the country could see themselves, their families, and their experiences reflected on a TV show. And their peers could… >> Read More
My wife and I are planning to start trying to conceive in March, and suddenly, two months or less out, I find myself trying to freeze time. I don't mean feeling immobilized or freaking out and not…wanting that time to come. I mean that I am living in and enjoying every moment until then. I've spent the past couple years agonizing over when we could have a baby. Not every second, of course. We were occupied with house-hunting, moving in and settling in, my conversion to Judaism. A lot of wonderful… >> Read More