Ruth Abusch-Magder is Rabbi-in-Residence at Bechollashon.org. She earned a doctorate by studying domestic Jewish life but also earned her credibility in the motherhood trenches where together with her husband she is raising two kids. Having parented on three continents, she now resides in San Francisco.
This Veteran’s Day, my son, a college freshman, will wear military blues.
My son was 3 the first time he told us of plans to go into the military. But that same year he also told us he would be…a cowboy, a farmer, and a firefighter. So I simply nodded and allowed our lives to continue. In his early teens, he announced at dinner his intention of joining the Israel Defense Forces. Again, I said little, knowing that time and experience would likely shift his thinking. But when, in the final years of high… >> Read More
Let's be honest; by the sixth night of Hanukkah, the magic can wear thin.
Yet Deborah De Costa's beautiful children's book
reminds us that the sixth night of Hanukkah is a…particularly special night of the holiday. The title refers to the appearance of the new moon on the sixth night, signalling the arrival of the Jewish month of Tevet. Jewish tradition celebrates each new month with additional prayers and historically giving women a half day off to connect with the cycles of the moon. In… >> Read More
When I tell the story of how my husband and I became a couple, I often leave out one important detail: the long conversation we had about circumcision on our first date.
While we were not even at…the place where holding hands would have felt right, we somehow stumbled into an intimate discussion of whether or not we would circumcise a very hypothetical son. Among the things that had brought us together, and have kept us together since, was a shared commitment to liberal Judaism, based in years of education and involvement… >> Read More