Drew Barrymore is currently going through a rough time right now. The Jewish mom just announced her split from her art consultant husband Will Kopelman after four years of marriage, according to E! Online. They are parents to their two daughters, 3-year-old Olive and 23-month-old Frankie.
The couple issued a statement, saying their children are their priority:
“Sadly our family is separating legally, although we do not feel this takes away from us being a family. Divorce might make one feel like a failure, but eventually you start to find grace in the idea that life goes on. Our children are our universe, and we look forward to living the rest of our lives with them as the first priority.”
On Saturday, 41-year-old Barrymore spoke to to PopSugar post-split, describing how confiding in a friend helped her move forward:
“I had a really hard time a couple of months ago and kind of knew life was heading in a new direction,” she recalled. “I called someone that I really trust, respect, and believe in, because he has always been the conductor of grace. I said, ‘What’s your advice?’ And he said, ‘You put one foot in front of the other.’ I hung up the phone and I thought, ‘That is why I call this person.’ It’s not only succinct, but it’s almost physically productive and life-choice productive. It’s just great advice. It’s a kind of way in which to live, and I want to be like him. I want to be like that. I want to put one foot in front of the other.
The only thing I care about, my life’s mission and the only thing that matters as of now is that my daughters know what our lives were like, how we lived, and how much I love them. For them to know that they were not just loved, but, like, ridiculously, utterly, life-alteringly loved. That’s the only reason I’m here now!”
While divorce is an extremely difficult situation for any family to go through–as is any major life change–choosing to move forward in a relationship that isn’t working isn’t a failure, it’s one of the healthiest and fairest choices for everyone involved. It takes a lot of bravery to admit something, especially a marriage, isn’t working, so I applaud Barrymore for making the hard choice.
(And you know, if you need a good laugh, watch this Louis C.K. video about divorce.)