Wendy Cruz-Chan decided to donate her breast milk after the stillbirth of her son. While her story is deeply painful, it is also inspiring, as she chose to make something beautiful out of tragedy. Her decision helped feed six babies–and it helped her cope.
Recently, Cruz-Chan wrote in a Facebook post that she began pumping breast milk three days after the birth of her stillborn son, Killian. Her goal was to make it to 2,000 ounces, and after pumping day and night for three months, she exceeded it, as she pumped 2,038 ounces. This helped her mourn the loss of her son. She wrote:
“Pumping every 3-4 hours a day including nights was very tiring. But it was so worth it. Seeing those babies thriving from my milk really helped me through my healing process.”
Cruz-Chan, who is a doula, told Inside Edition that she is also raising money for a “Killian Cuddle Cot” at a New York hospital so families can spend more time with their babies after stillbirths. As of now, her post has been shared over 12,000 times and she has received many supportive comments as a result, such as:
“How to do something positive out of something heartbreaking! Amazing – what a fantastic thing to do.”
“What a beautiful way to honor your child and yourself.”
In the end, Cruz-Chan explained how we can always turn something painful into an experience that helps us grow and connect to others:
“I wanted to show that even after a tragic stillbirth, you can turn that into something positive and inspire those around you. Through my grief I evolved and learned to pull myself out of the darkness.”
I’m so glad Cruz-Chan found a healthy way to mourn her son–and that people like her exist and make the world a better place than she found it.
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