My 2-year-old daughter frequently grabs toys out of other children’s hands without asking first. She’s verbal enough to use her words, but sometimes she gets so excited about the toy that she just snatches it away. How should I respond?
Darling, I don’t want to belittle your problem, but repeat after me: she is only 2. She is only 2. She is only 2.
She may be the most lovable, clever and compassionate 2 year old in the world, but she is only 2. This behavior is normal.
If she takes a toy from another small child who is distressed about it, give attention to the distressed child, point out to your daughter that she hurt the other child’s feelings, that she wouldn’t like it if it was done to her, and ask her to return the toy. Praise her lightly for doing so, give her a hug. Or you can continue to give soothing attention to the wounded party and offer her a BETTER toy; Miss Grab may feel a bit left out and maybe she will learn something from this but–she is only 2.
If that doesn’t work, and it most likely won’t, try to distract both the children with something else. Resort to a treat if you have to.
Don’t forget, in a couple of minutes this will all be over and they both will move on to something else anyway. (They are only 2!) Any tantrums are to be completely ignored.
If the other child, however, is not distressed by the loss of the toy, I wouldn’t bother; there’s a lesson there for the other kid too. Fight back or lose! (Only kidding.) (Not really.)
Save your anguish for really anti-social behavior, like biting. That’s a hard one.
Keep up the good work!
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