Judy L. Mandel is the author of the New York TimesBest Seller, Replacement Child–a memoir, (Seal Press). She is a writing coach, teacher, freelance editor and senior editor at Kaylie Jones Books. Judy’s essays, articles and short stories have appeared in 34th Parallel, The Tishman Review, Connecticut LIFE, ASJA Monthly, Complete Wellbeing Magazine, Connecticut Authors and Publishers Magazine, The Southampton Review and other publications.
This is for all the single, divorced, or separated mothers who are wondering what it means for you and your children in the future. I want to provide a possible flash forward by affording you a view…from my own rearview mirror some 26 years later. My son was 3 when I got divorced. It was a gut wrenching decision fueled by knowing it was the right thing for all of us. It’s never easy to split up a family, and I don’t want to minimize the amount of second-guessing and angst that… >> Read More
I love love love love Bette Midler. She is my girl—you know? I saw her shows in the '70s and '80s. The giant inflated boobs, the fish tail, the bawdy repartee. We basically grew up together. She…was the singer I wanted to be when I was leaning in that direction for several years, and she gave me permission to step outside of my Jersey girl norms. Seeing her this week in previews for “Hello, Dolly!” (directed by Jerry Zaks) was kind of a dream come true. And, judging from the screams… >> Read More
It’s funny how things stay the same. It was certainly a boys' network when I worked in Fortune 100 corporations for over 20 years. If you didn’t play golf with the guys on Friday afternoon, or go…to the local hockey games, certain projects never got discussed in your hearing. And that meant many exceptionally qualified women never got the choice assignments that garnered awareness from the execs. The domino effect was that women were often left behind when promotions were given out. The women I saw in charge, and by the 2000’s… >> Read More
Recently a commentator on a major cable news show (okay it was MSNBC) was criticizing the proposed new healthcare bill, itemizing that 24 million Americans may lose their healthcare coverage, that…premiums were likely to rise at least for the next 10 years and scores of Medicaid recipients would be thrown off the rosters. Then she said, “It doesn’t seem to be a very Christian plan.” Really? As a noun, Christian refers to someone who follows the teachings of Christ, which makes perfect sense to me.… >> Read More
I was too young for the sexual upheaval of the 60’s and the birth of feminism. Though, I did my best to catch up in the 70’s, Betty Friedan and Germaine Greer were talking to someone else—maybe…even to my mother, who tried to understand what her generation had missed. Gloria Steinem was almost mine, but we passed like ships, too. I have only recently read Joan Didion’s signature works of our country in cultural revolt. This information, and the bereft feeling of missing out on the revolution, was brought home recently… >> Read More