Maurie Backman lives in Central New Jersey. Between her active toddler, twin baby girls, and yappy dog, she gets more than her fair share of noise. Maurie currently works as a freelance content writer and editor, and enjoys creating works of fiction. She also bakes way too often.
Back when my husband and I first bought our house, we had a vision for what it would look like: two kids' rooms, a beautifully appointed guest room, and a living room with modest furniture and…decor. We set up the guest room right away, but the two kids' rooms remained empty for quite some time. Meanwhile, our dining room featured antique furniture inherited from my husband's grandmother, which we often adorned with candlesticks as we dined, sipped wine, and dreamt out loud about our future. Right off our living room… >> Read More
Though my now 2-year-old twin daughters amazed me back in the day by pretty much never napping before their 1st birthday, once they turned one, something shifted, and magically, they began taking a…solid 90-minute nap smack in the middle of the day. This was something to celebrate for a number of reasons. First, it meant having less cranky kids in the evening, but just as importantly, it gave me a small window of time to do the things I needed to do to function as a human.… >> Read More
Ever since my twin daughters turned 2 earlier this year, I’ve started to increasingly ignore them during the day.
I know that sounds bad, but let me explain.
Back when my daughters were first…born, I was pretty much attached to them 24/7. Much of that had to do with the fact that I was nursing, and couldn’t manage to feed both simultaneously. The result? I slept very little, and spent nearly every waking hour with an infant in my arms. When I wasn’t feeding the girls, I was… >> Read More
No matter what time my 5-year-old son goes to sleep at night, it’s inevitable: Come roughly 5:45-6:00 a.m., he’s up every morning like clockwork.
Case in point: The other week, we had him up…until 10:00PM after a family gathering that ran late. Since that’s a solid two hours past his typical bedtime, we figured he’d sleep in a little the following morning, but no--I’m pretty sure I heard him rustling about by 6:01. But while my son’s perpetually early wakeups used to be a major problem for me… >> Read More
One of the hardest things about being a mom who works from home is the glaring lack of opportunity to do things yourself during the day. Case in point: When I had a doctor’s appointment last month…and couldn’t find anyone to watch my twin 2-year-old daughters, I had no choice but to drag them along with me and take turns holding them on my lap while my doctor went about her business. It’s this very arrangement that’s made me long for the era of going grocery shopping myself. Don’t get me… >> Read More
It was a typical morning, like any other in our household. My 5-year-old son had finished his breakfast while his twin 2-year-old sisters sat at the table doing what they usually do during…meals—playing with their utensils, making faces at one another, and basically doing everything possible to avoid putting food directly into their mouths. I'm used to breakfast taking 45 minutes with this crew, so I've learned to tolerate the table-side antics. But what I don't tolerate well is when my daughters decide to take their food… >> Read More
Recently, for the first time in a long time, my husband and I planned a rather extravagant evening out. It started with drinks at a cocktail lounge, followed by dinner at a nice restaurant, and then…a concert by one of my favorite performers. We were looking forward to this night for weeks—but every time it came up in conversation, I found myself feeling surprisingly awkward about it. When a good friend, for example, asked what we were doing that weekend, I told her our plans, and while her response was nothing… >> Read More
I went back to full-time work after having my first child, and while I missed him terribly, at the time, it was the right decision for me and my family. But once I had my now 2-year-old twin…daughters, I realized that going back to full-time work would not only be logistically difficult, but practically useless from a financial standpoint. Given the cost of daycare and commuting, it just didn’t pay to go back to a day job. Instead, I figured I’d look for a part-time work arrangement once my girls got past… >> Read More
I’m no stranger to keeping kosher at home, and while there are times when it gets a little…okay, I’ll say it, inconvenient. For the most part, I don’t actually mind keeping kosher. Except for…when it comes to Passover. Making my house kosher for Passover is something I dread doing to such an extent that in the 10-year span since getting married, I’ve yet to attempt it even once. Instead, I’ve taken a shortcut year after year—packed a bag, sold my chametz, and headed to my parents’ place for… >> Read More
It started when our piano teacher quit on us a couple of months back. My 5-year-old son had been taking lessons for well over a year in addition to a host of other activities--soccer on the weekends…and swimming lessons during the week, to name a few. But it just so happened that when I got the call about piano, we’d already wrapped up the soccer season and decided not to sign up for more swimming lessons, figuring my son would be taught at camp. I began making calls to find a… >> Read More
Very recently, my husband had to spend an entire day taking care of me and our children as I recovered from a horrible stomach bug. My kids got the virus first in rapid succession and fortunately…recovered within 12 hours each time. I, on the other hand, was left incapacitated for an entire 24-hour period, during which time I was confined to either my bed or the bathroom floor. Picking up my twin 2-year-olds and changing their diapers was out of the question, as was fixing my 5-year-old lunch, helping him… >> Read More
When you have twin toddlers, you tend to bring a lot of noise and ruckus with you wherever you go. It’s something I’ve gotten used to, more or less, but every so often, the commotion that ensues…when I walk in the door with my kids starts to make me self-conscious. And despite the fact that I happen to belong to an extremely warm, inviting synagogue, that self-consciousness tends to come to a head when my kids get restless during services. Don’t get me wrong—I love taking all of my kids to… >> Read More
My son just turned 5, and though his financial awareness is limited at best, he does understand the role money plays in everyday life. For example, he knows that we need money to buy food, have a…home, and drive a car, and he also understands that not everyone has enough money to do these things—hence our weekly tzedakah. But recently, we read a book where the main characters started getting an allowance, and it made him wonder when he'd be getting one. It made me wonder, too. I ran it by… >> Read More
I'm grateful to have a husband who pitches in not only in terms of caring for our kids, but doing things around the house. That said, the bulk of our household chores still falls on me, and it's not…just because I happen to be home during the week. Even on weekends, when chores are conceivably up for grabs, I end up doing most of them. And while I sometimes get a little bitter or crabby toward my husband about that fact, I recently realized that he actually isn't to blame for his lack… >> Read More
It happens pretty much every day. Because I need to leave my house at a certain point to pick my 5-year-old son up from preschool, I end up having to cut my twin 2-year-old daughters’ nap short to…take them with me. Here’s how our schedule actually plays out: I need to feed my girls lunch around noon—doing so any earlier is hard because they tend to sleep late and eat breakfast on the later side. Once I manage to clean them up and get them down for a nap, it's already 12:45.… >> Read More
It seems like only yesterday I arrived home from the hospital with my twin daughters in tow. But alas, two years have passed since those amazing little girls entered and essentially took over my…world, and while raising them along with my son is a perpetual learning process, here are a few tidbits I’ve picked up along the way. 1. People will never cease to be fascinated with twins. When my daughters were infants and I’d cart them around the supermarket or back and forth to the doctor’s office… >> Read More
This article is part of the Here. Now. essay series, which seeks to de-stigmatize mental health treatment, and improve accessibility to treatment and support for teens and parents in metropolitan…New York. In a piece I wrote over two years ago, I bemoaned the fact that I seemed to be missing the mommy gene—that basic instinct I thought all moms were somehow graced with. You see, my mom had it when we were growing up (and she can still work her magic with her grandchildren).… >> Read More
I’m the type of person who has a real problem with clutter. (In fact, I’ve written about it here.) Having a cluttered house doesn’t just irritate me; it makes me feel claustrophobic in my own…home. And so with the holidays coming up, I’m already taking steps to clear out space to accommodate the inevitable influx of boxes that’s sure to take over my house. But while many of us who have kids experience the aforementioned influx, in my house, it’s exacerbated by the fact that my almost 5-year-old son… >> Read More
With Hanukkah rapidly approaching, I’m already deep into list-making mode in my attempt to come up with good gifts for the various people in my life. And though I’m not big into social media, it…seems like every time I sign on, there’s a message from someone I know encouraging people like me to support other moms in their business ventures rather than give money to major retailers. In fact, I have several mom friends who sell different product lines, from face cream to jewelry to fancy cooking tools. Most… >> Read More
Now that Hanukkah is just around the corner, I’m doing my best to prepare by shopping early, searching for the best deals, and clearing out space in my house to accommodate the usual haul of…incoming presents. So let’s talk about those presents for a minute. My kids tend to get a lot of them—too many, if I’m being honest. And since my oldest happens to have a December birthday, the influx of stuff that takes over my already-cluttered house around Hanukkah time is almost unmanageable. Not only that, but… >> Read More
Like many parents of young kids (or all kids, really), I go through periods where the days and weeks manage to slip away so quickly it’s scary. And when that happens, I tend to become a pretty bad…friend, at least temporarily. I’m not proud of it, but it’s reality. When there just aren’t enough hours in the day to do the things I need to do, I simply can’t take 30 minutes here or there to pick up the phone and say hello, nor can I even begin to attempt a girls’… >> Read More
With so many of us still reeling from what I called PESD (Post-Election Stress Disorder), I’m grateful that Thanksgiving is just around the corner. While it’s not a Jewish holiday, I’ve always…felt a strong Jewish connection to Thanksgiving. And this year, I think it’s more important than ever that I incorporate some Jewish elements into our Thanksgiving celebration for my almost 5-year-old son to see. If you’re looking to do the same, here are three easy ways to get started: 1. Dive into the Jewish concept… >> Read More
I'm no stranger to full-time work. Before I had my first child, I spent years clocking in 10-hour days at the office. When my oldest was 3 months old, I resumed my full-time gig and maintained that…schedule until the fall of 2014, at which point I was very pregnant with twins (and miserably so, I might add). Once my daughters were born, I knew that going back to work full-time wouldn't make sense from a financial or logistical standpoint (between childcare and commuting costs, the majority of my salary would've been… >> Read More
I’ve loved cooking for a long time now, and while I’ve certainly had my fair share of kitchen mishaps, I’m generally pretty good at it. In fact, before we had kids, my husband and I would spend…much of our weekends cooking together and experimenting with new recipes. But these days, my husband—who, incidentally, is a far better cook than I am—barely has enough time to sleep, let alone cook. And as a part-time working mom and stay-at-home mom to 20-month-old twins and a 4.5-year-old, my days and nights are extremely packed… >> Read More
Most of us probably don’t look forward to Yom Kippur, but if I’m being honest, I think I’m actually dreading it. While it’s challenging enough keeping up with my 4.5-year-old son and twin…20-month-old daughters on a regular day, the idea of chasing them around when I’m weak and dehydrated is pretty daunting. That’s why I’ve taken some time to put together a little survival plan, and I’m here to share it with all of you. Here are a few ways to make Yom Kippur just a bit… >> Read More