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Mar 14 2013

10 Ways to Add Some Girl Power to Your Seder

By at 5:03 pm

orange for the seder plateWhether you weave in one, a few, or all 10 of these tips, consider honoring the matriarchal roots of Judaism this Passover with a little girl power fun at your seder this year.

1. Add an Orange & Coffee Bean to Your Seder Plate

The Orange: The orange represents both inclusion and solidarity with women and the LGBT community. The new tradition was started by Professor Susannah Heschel, who was inspired by women at Oberlin College in 1984 who made space on their seder plate to represent all who were not explicitly present in the Passover story.

A Coffee Bean: The coffee bean on your seder plate represents and honors both the bitterness and strength of juggling your work life and family life–something we’re pretty sure you can relate to.

2. Miriam’s Cup

In addition to the traditional cup of Elijah, include Miriam’s Cup, and begin your seder by filling it up together. It serves as the symbol of Miriam’s Well–the source of water for the Israelites in the desert. Pass the cup around the table, and let each person add a bit of water to it from their own cup, establishing that the seder is an inclusive and participatory one. Remind your guests that while we may enjoy drinking our four cups of wine, that water is just as important–like Miriam’s Well, water sustains and nourishes us (and prevents hangovers).

3. Lighting Candles

Candle lighting has traditionally fallen to women in Jewish practice. Honor this by recognizing that the lighting of candles helps usher light into the darkness and allows us to begin our holidays peacefully. This poem, written by Hannah Senesch, is an excellent way to help usher in that feeling:

Blessed is the match consumed in kindling flame.
Blessed is the flame that burns in the secret fastness of the heart.
Blessed is the heart with the strength to stop its beating for honor’s sake.
Blessed is the match consumed in kindling flame.

4. The Four Mothers

Speaking of those four cups of wine, you can note during your seder that some scholars connect the four cups of wine with the four mothers: Sarah, Rivka, Rachel, and Leah. After all, the only thing better than one Jewish mother is four.

5. Honor The Women In Your Life

The Four Cups of Wine are also excellent opportunities to honor the women in your own life–both past and present. With each glass of wine, take a moment to dedicate it to a woman who has impacted your life in some way. (Pro tip: if your own mom is in attendance, you might want to go ahead and include her.)

6. The Four Daughters

While we’re familiar with the story of the Four Sons from the traditional haggadah, why not also give a nod to the Four Biblical Daughters, a wonderful addition from A Night To Remember, The Haggadah of Contemporary Voices by Mishael & Noam Zion. The reading shares wisdom from Miriam, Tamar, Ruth, and “The Beautiful Captive.”

7. Four Alternative Questions

After reciting the Ma Nishtana–the traditional Four Questions–take the time to ask four more alternative questions, ones that feel relevant to you and your family and ignite discussion. Here’s one example to get you started: What still enslaves us as Jewish women today, and how do we seek freedom from our own “Pharaohs?” (or Sheryl Sandbergs, if you will).

8. Add To The Story!

There are many women who play crucial roles in the Exodus story, yet they’re usually left out of the retelling. Take some time to sing their praises:

Shifra and Puah: These two midwives were respected members of their community. Despite risk of punishment, they defied the Pharaoh’s orders and continued to help deliver baby boys for Jewish women in Egypt.

Yocheved: Having gone into labor early, Yocheved kept her secret from the Egyptians, saving Moses’ life. She then made the ultimate mother’s sacrifice by sending him down the river–her only hope in saving him from otherwise certain death. Now there’s a birth story to remember.

Batya: Pharaoh’s daughter Batya found Moses in the reeds of the Nile and decided to raise him as her own, knowingly going against her father’s decree to kill all male, Jewish babies. Without her defiance and bravery, our Passover story might have looked very different.

Miriam: One of the most well known women in the Bible, Miriam was the brave young woman who ensured Moses was safe during his journey down the Nile River. She also was the one to bring Yocheved to Batya to be used as a nursemaid, ensuring that mother and son were never far apart. We don’t hear much about Miriam again until the exodus from Egypt, but when we do, it is her strength and song that stick with us, which brings us to…

9. Miriam’s Song

One of Debbie Friedman’s most joyful songs, Miriam’s Song is rooted in the Exodus verse describing how Miriam led the Israelite women in song and dance after they crossed the Red Sea. “…Miriam the Prophet, Aaron’s sister, took a timbrel in her hand and all the women went after her with timbrels, dancing. And Miriam called to them: Sing to God…”

10. Wise Women

There are many songs, poems, and stories written by women that are a perfect match for Passover that you can include in your seder along the way. Some of my favorites:

Marge Piercy’s poem “Season of the Egg” is a perfect fit for Passover.

- Rabbi Rachel Berenblat (aka The Velveteen Rabbi)’s poem Day After about what happens after the seder.

- Rabbi Jill Hammer’s feminist version of the traditional end of seder song, Adir Hu: Orah Hi.

Do you have any ways to bring a little feminism into your seder? Let us know in the comments below.


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