Marlene Kern Fischer is a wife, mother of three sons, food shopper extraordinaire, blogger, lifelong writer and college essay editor. She graduated cum laude from Brandeis University with a degree in English Literature. In addition to Kveller, her work has been featured on Collegiate Parent, Grown and Flown, Her View From Home and the Erma Bombeck Writers' Workshop. Read more at her website here.
My oldest son recently texted me a picture of his girlfriend sitting on the couch next to a bag of hair. Actually, he had to tell me what was in the bag, because it was somewhat unclear from the…picture. The two of them had gone to see my husband’s mother, who my sons refer to as Bubbe. In the process of downsizing, Bubbe had given them some things from her house, including a bag containing her (long ago) shorn braided ponytail, as well as a bag containing her own mother’s (even longer ago)… >> Read More
I’ve recently become a little obsessed with hygge (pronounced HOO-gah). In case you haven’t heard about hygge, loosely translated it’s the Danish concept of finding well-being and satisfaction…through coziness and simple things. A more complete definition is that, “it’s a holistic approach to deliberately creating intimacy, connection, and warmth with ourselves and those around us,” according to “The Cozy Life” by Pia Edberg. I initially began reading about hygge because I really hate winter and thought it might be the spin I… >> Read More
A good friend of mine recently lost her father, and after shiva (the mourning period following the death of an immediate family member) had ended, she called me up and said, “I had no idea how to…be a good shiva guest.” Unfortunately, because I have suffered several losses, I have some insight into what can be helpful, and conversely, not so helpful, during this difficult time. If you haven’t sat shiva before, or you’re looking for the best ways to support the grieving family, here are a few tips to help… >> Read More
As Passover approaches I find myself getting cranky, as I do every year before this particular holiday. My grumbling, which begins around the time Passover food makes an appearance at the grocery…store, becomes more incessant with each day leading up to the first seder. I imagine that even the slaves in Egypt did not complain as much as I do. I am not proud of my behavior, and every year I vow to do better; however, like many resolutions, my good intentions fall as flat as… >> Read More
I kept asking when I would start to feel better. I am a person who likes concrete answers, but no one seemed to know the answer to my question.
This was 26 years ago, in a support group I had…joined after my first baby died. The other day it dawned on me that had my son, who had a congenital heart defect which surgery was unable to repair, lived, he would be the same age now as I was when I had him. When he was born, many of my friends weren’t even married… >> Read More