It’s not a secret anymore that Drew Barrymore is going through a rough time, as she’s divorcing her husband Will Kopelman, with whom she has two daughters. The 41-year-old Jewish actress opened up about how ending her four year marriage is devastating while appearing on the premiere of Chelsea Handler’s new Netflix talk show
Barrymore was honest about her emotions, and how it’s hard for her not to feel like a failure, even if she knows she’s doing the right thing:
“I put in my statement about divorce the word ‘failure’ because it’s so honest. Like, when you get divorced, you break up with somebody and you’re like, ‘Yeah, that didn’t work,’ and you get divorced, [but] when you get divorced you’re like, ‘I’m the biggest failure. This is the biggest failure.’ It’s so shameful and hard to actually go through that, even privately.
It’s a tough time. It’s a hard thing to go through. It’s like you’re being put on a cheese grater and every second, going, ‘Ah! This wasn’t the plan!'”
Despite this, Barrymore is keeping a positive attitude, in that she’s just putting “one foot in front of the other,” because there’s nothing else she can do. She’s also explained in the past that her daughters have completely changed her perspective on life, and she’s mostly relishing the time they have together. She also explained how the support from her family and friends has been invaluable–and that right now, she just wants “girlfriend time”:
“There has been this really nice feeling of something very fluid and positive and the opposite of how I felt inside. Everyone has just been so cool and chill and nice about everything that it quelled my own fears and demons about how we sort of have to go through things in life.”
While divorce, or any separation, is an extremely difficult thing to experience, it is also a time for a fresh start–which is important to keep in mind when the situation feels grim. And in the end, it’s always better to leave a relationship that simply isn’t working.