Marcy Hallerman is a program director at a Jewish Community Center, and works with individuals with disabilities. She and her husband have been together for almost 15 years. After struggling with infertility for 9 years, they had their first child in June.
Before I had children, I had this image in my head of a group of mommy friends. We would get together on weekend afternoons in each other’s backyards or playrooms, and we would talk and laugh as…our children played nearby. I imagined that I would have children around the same time as most of my current friends, and we’d share life as parents together. I also imagined that I would make new friends at the playground, through my child’s day care or nursery school, and at community events. In reality, I… >> Read More
It took my husband and me years of trying naturally, 3 IUIs, 2 cancelled IVFs, and 4 completed IVFs before we had our “take home” baby. Our daughter was born in June of 2015, and has been the…love and light of our lives ever since. I thought my infertility would go away after I had her; that it would be a distant memory that I rehashed every once in a while when someone asked me about our fertility journey. It turns out that it doesn’t go away like that. The pain lessened… >> Read More
I just spent a day off from work with my 16-month-old daughter. She woke up happy, played for a while, danced to her “Shababa” CD, and the day started off well.
Then at breakfast she dumped a…container of yogurt over her head (I didn’t know whether to laugh or cry), at the playground she insisted on trying to eat acorns and leaves, and she threw a temper tantrum while I was cooking dinner because I couldn’t refill her water cup while I had raw chicken on my hands. She wanted to… >> Read More
My daughter, who we waited nine years for, is now 9 months old. She is babbling, crawling, and already developing her own personality. She is a great eater, very willing to try new foods (and usually…shovels them into her mouth as fast as I can put pieces onto her high chair tray), and she sleeps through the night. After all the struggles we had to have her, my husband and I truly feel blessed right now. But over the last several months, the question of expanding our family again has… >> Read More
Whenever I am out with my 3-month-old daughter and we meet someone new, I tend to get asked the same questions every time: “How old is she?”; “What’s her name?”; and “Is she your…first?” The first two questions are easy to answer, but the third always makes me pause. My husband and I struggled for years with infertility. In September of 2012, an IVF cycle worked, and I got pregnant. Everything with that pregnancy looked great. In January, we went for our 20-week sonogram. The tech ran the… >> Read More
This is part of a two post series. Read the second part, “When You Keep Having Kids…And Your Sister Can’t” here.
My little sister was born when I was 3 years old. We grew up really close,…and shared everything. Toys, friends, even the chicken pox. Throughout the years, she always wanted to do everything I did--when she was in preschool she would sit at the dining room table while I was doing my homework, and my mother would have to give her an assignment too. One time she even took my… >> Read More