Erica Fleischer lives in Chicago with her husband and two daughters. She currently works as a government policy analyst but spent many years as Jewish communal professional. When not chasing around her kids she enjoys swimming and traveling.
Each morning before day care, I defrost bags of breast milk for my daughter. It’s a normal routine for pumping moms, but the only difference is most of the milk isn’t my milk. It belongs to…another mom who donated it to me. A few years ago, I wrote here about how I made my peace with both breastfeeding and formula feeding my daughter due to low supply. I still agree with what I wrote, especially that one’s value as a mother should not be defined by breast milk. Intellectually I… >> Read More
The day the pediatrician told me just how serious my breastfeeding problems really were, my aunt arrived into town to help out.
We had planned her trip so that she could meet the baby but until she…got there I didn't fully realize how crucial this visit was for me. My aunt immediately took control of the situation both emotionally and practically. She held both me and my daughter as I cried and cried. Her baby gift to me: as many sessions with the lactation consultant as I wanted. Other people could… >> Read More
My husband works for a porn site.
There was some question when he was first considering working there whether it was really a porn site, as it bills itself as "a celebrity nudity site." If you’ve…ever seen the movie "Knocked Up," Mr. Skin is the real life version of what Seth Rogen’s character had planned. So it’s a little classier than an actual porn site. But the site hosts porn advertisements and no matter how you slice it, the site promotes images of naked women. And I am completely supportive. When… >> Read More
"Your daughter is not gaining weight," the pediatrician explained to me at my daughter's two week checkup.
That pediatrician's appointment still haunts me. It took me from a place where I thought my…milk was just slow in coming into full panic mode. It took me to a world of pumping around the clock, supplemental feeding devices, formula, herbs and teas, weight checks, never leaving the house, and endless tears. >> Read More
Recently I sat down with forms for my daughter's new day care, ready to answer endless questions about whether she uses bottles or sippy cups and how we get her to fall asleep.
I was not expecting…to have to answer any questions about my pregnancy and delivery, which happened nearly 15 months ago. But in a section labeled "Part Four: Pre and Post Natal," there were a few shocking questions including one that made me stop in my tracks: "Did you have any anesthesia or medication during delivery?" Really?!? What does a… >> Read More