I have two boys at two different summer camps right now. One of them is having a blast. The other is also having a great time — but I only know that because I have extrapolated it from his…silence. My oldest son, 14, knows that when it comes to letters, he needs to Feed The Beast. (Yes, “the beast,” in this particular scenario, is me.). He knows that I am someone who gets super excited about receiving real mail, and have ever since I was little. In fact, when I was a girl,… >> Read More
Pop culture tells us that Jewish mothers are supposed to lay on the guilt as thick as a mountain of schmear on an everything bagel. Countless books, TV shows, and movies feature neurotic Jewish…mothers guilting their sons and daughters into becoming doctors and lawyers, into marrying Nice Jewish Girls and Nice Jewish Boys, and -- naturally -- into breeding an army of grandchildren. And it’s not just a media trope. My own grandmother could have taken home an Oscar for Best Guilt Trip: “What, you didn’t have time… >> Read More
Everyone knows about "Mom Guilt." It's like your shadow--always there even when you don't want it to be. But apparently, dads feel it too (Happy Father's Day!).
According to an online survey of…over 1,200 dads conducted by Fatherly and Today, dads feel bad when they work too much and miss that recital or performance, or spend too much time on their phones, or get frustrated by not having enough "me time." The survey shows that dads feel pressured to fulfill that traditional breadwinner role, with 1 in 4 dads feeling guilty… >> Read More
It is a truth universally acknowledged that a person in possession of small children must be in want of advice.
“Excuse me,” said the older lady from across the aisle, “This hat is bothering…him.” I nodded at her with a forced smile before focusing, once again, on my wailing son. “I know you wanted to walk onto the bus all by yourself,” I murmured. "Darling, I’m so proud of you for trying to do things on your own, but we couldn’t take our time when there were so… >> Read More
There's an old rhyme I used to love in my youth: "Your son is your son 'till he finds him a wife/ Your daughter's your daughter the rest of your life!"
Of course, I was a daughter then, and had a…close relationship with my dear mama; so, the poem worked for me. And then I grew up to have some amazing sons, and wonderful daughters-in-law. These girls are truly the other halves of my adult sons. They have become daughters to me. But the poem, like many such sayings, has some truth behind it. I… >> Read More