Mayim Bialik hosts her official blog about parenting and Judaism on Kveller. She is best known for her current role as Amy Farrah Fowler on CBS' The Big Bang Theory, as well as her lead role in the 1990s NBC sitcom Blossom. She is the grandchild of immigrants from Eastern Europe and the mother of two young boys.
My father (z"l) died six weeks ago or so.
As I wrote in my post about shloshim, the ritual of reciting Kaddish has been a learning experience for me, since I never went to synagogue daily and…didn't know a lot at all about what goes on in a synagogue except if it's Shabbat or a holiday. For me, learning new things during grief feels like something that is happening in my father's honor, despite the fact that he was not a religious man, and likely would not have thought I would… >> Read More
For months after my sons were born, I was told by doctors, nurses, well-meaning family members, and even close friends that I must not have been made to nurse. I spent the first months (not…weeks--months) of breastfeeding crying, despondent, and in pain. I had every problem known to breastfeeding women and the lactation community: nursing blisters, thrush, mastitis, overactive letdown; you name it, I had it. I sought the help and guidance of many lactation counselors and consultants with my firstborn and I tried to manage it all on… >> Read More
As I wrote here on Kveller, my father died last month. The period of sheloshim (30 in Hebrew) just ended, as a matter of fact. Sheloshim marks the end of 30 days of mourning.
There are…restrictions on behavior and activities for the 30 days and there are additional restrictions for the full year which are reserved for the following people related to the deceased: parent, child, spouse, sibling. I have recited Kaddish (the Mourner's prayer) in a quorum of 10 (a minyan) every day since my father was buried. That… >> Read More
I witnessed history being made on Shabbat.
Rav Yosef Kanefsy of Congregation Bnai David in the Pico/Robertson neighborhood of Los Angeles joined a handful of Orthodox synagogues across the country…by announcing that he and the synagogue have hired a female clergy person. What is a female clergy person? Well, she is not a female rabbi, which the Reform and Conservative movements have ordained for decades. She is an Orthodox woman who has been trained at Yeshivat Maharat who can serve alongside men as a person… >> Read More
My father died.
The second to last day of Passover. He had been in hospice for two months. We knew it was coming. We had months to process and love and grieve and rage at God and all of that.
And…then he died. I don’t know what I am ready to share. I don’t know that I am ready to share. For those of you who have lost a parent, you know how I feel. You tell me you do. For those of you who have lost someone else you were close to, you also… >> Read More
Admissions time for college means decision making. I posted earlier this week about the gap year program I wish my sons were ready for. Many of us have young kids years from college decision-making,…but what's been in the news regarding the charges of anti-Semitism against my alma mater, UCLA, has me thinking and wondering about Jewish identity on campuses. Our own Alina Adams expressed explicit concern about it, because it's a legitimate concern. I wrote my response to Alina's concerns and included the UCLA student government's responses to… >> Read More
I don't have teenagers. I have a 6 and a 9-year-old. Sometimes they seem like teenagers, especially when they roll their eyes and cock their hip and screech, "Mo-om!" But they are not…teenagers. If I did have a teenager, now would be the time of year I was panicking, or fretting, or getting theoretically excited about them being accepted (or not) to the college of their choice...which makes this an excellent time to remind you that according to US News and World Report, approximately 1/3 of college… >> Read More
As we all know, I hated the movie "Frozen" and I feel no shame about it. I hated the way the females were portrayed, I disliked the vagueness of her "powers," and I felt it was ultimately…misogynistic which is not the same as empowering women. Hated it. I took my boys to see the Jim Parsons/Rihanna animated film, "Home" this weekend. I am sure you're not surprised that we loved it, and not just because we were texting the star of it from the theater minutes before it started. READ: Happy Birthday… >> Read More
Spring has sprung, and with it: Passover! It's most people's favorite Jewish holiday and I can't say our family is an exception. My boys love it; they love the added responsibility that comes each…year from learning more of the Four Questions to opening the door for Elijah with as little trepidation as possible. Where? As a divorced mama, I am grateful to my wonderful ex and our wonderful way we co-parent. READ: Mayim Bialik: Watching “Prince of Egypt” With My Boys Made Me Cry–With Gratitude We will be… >> Read More
I tend to not write a lot about politics here; it's so divisive and complicated. I am a bleeding heart liberal when it comes to things like the death penalty, and while I tend to be socially…conservative (what with all of my Ariana Grande billboard issues), I believe in democratic principles and unions, helping the poor, and I generally believe that the skewed structure of our culture is the determining factor for people's lack of "upward mobility" rather than the inherent weakness or shortcomings some tend to see. As one of… >> Read More
The incidents at my alma mater, UCLA, in the past weeks have shaken us all. As a Bruin, to hear that members of the student government were considering not electing a perfectly competent student to a…position because she was Jewish is astounding and frightening. As a Jew and a Hillel supporter (having been the product of the leadership education, social and cultural and religious programming provided by Hillel organizations around the world) the accusations and inanity felt way too close to home for comfort. >> Read More
From time to time, I have written behind-the-scenes posts about special and monumental "The Big Bang Theory" episodes such as Tiara, Spanking, and Train Kiss.
This past week's "Sheldon and Amy…get a turtle" episode ended with a sweet hug and a lot of emotion so I think it's worthy of a post! Here are four things you wouldn't have guessed about that episode. 1. Turtles are hard to work with. The script actually was adjusted a few times to account for the "unpredictability" (also known… >> Read More
Anyone else have sick kids? Anyone else lose track of how many times you've had sick kids since, say, last fall? Yeah, me too.
One of my most Googled posts on Kveller, I am told, is my post about…how to handle kids who are throwing up. As a child, I found throwing up traumatic and as an adult I still find it traumatic. Once I became a mom, I devised ways to make throwing up not traumatic and I'm happy to report that it works and I am happy to share those tips… >> Read More
Editor's note: Mayim Bialik posted this statement to her social media profiles on Tuesday, Feb. 10, and has given us expressed permission to run it on Kveller on her behalf.
I would like to…dispel the rumors about my stance on vaccines. I am not anti-vaccine. My children are vaccinated. There has been so much hysteria and anger about this issue, and I hope this clears things up as far as my part. >> Read More
1. Mom stuff
I had a normal mom day until minutes before I started hair and make-up. Well, maybe you would have guessed that about me if you read my stuff here, but it was super duper normal down to…the laundry I had to do and the walk I took with my boys (including my older son making me eat wildflowers). My sons are always the highlight of my day, and on awards show days, that's still true. >> Read More
I grew up in a public school that had enough Jewish kids that I felt represented. I went to Hebrew school twice a week and had a chavurah (fellowship) through my Reform synagogue with kids my age.…A portion of my family was Orthodox. I was surrounded by Jews. I always felt like there were a lot of Jews in the US and the world based on my childhood experience. I was wrong. We are less than 2% of the US population, and 0.2% of the world population. Last week in Paris,… >> Read More
With the New Year upon us, I thought I would put down some random New Year’s-related thoughts. Some are resolution-type things, some are observations from the last year, and some are…general hopes I have as a human being on this planet. >> Read More
It's the week of Christmas, which means pretty much everything in this country has shut down. I guess it's that way for most of the (Christian) Western world, which leaves the rest of us…typically standing around twiddling our thumbs. This year, however, it's still Hanukkah! Yay! I am taking off for a proper vacation this week while my ex takes his boys to his folks', but here's a send off for this week featuring the photos of my Hanukkah. >> Read More
It's as if God gave me the best birthday gift ever: The movie "Exodus" came out on my birthday last week. It featured Christian Bale--yeah, the guy who once played Batman--as Moses, the greatest…prophet ever known in Jewish history. Sounds like it is destined to be amazing, right? Well, there were some amazing things about it, and there were some not so amazing things about it. Here are some of my top highlights of each kind. >> Read More
Hanukkah is upon us! It's here! Not with as much pomp and circumstance as last year, mind you, when it fell ON THANKSGIVING--oh my gosh that was so awesome, turkeys and latkes and candles were all…the rage. Stores had painted windows with turkeys holding Hanukkiyahs; it was awesome! Now, it's just a normal mid-December Hanukkah and that's fine, too. Hanukkah being upon us means the annual conversation with my sons (who are 6 and 9) to review the basics. We don't just review Hanukkah--oh no. That would be banal. We… >> Read More
The holidays are a time of joy, togetherness, and feelings of good for all man and womankind, right? Of course.
The holidays also seem to be a time when I hear more and more women than I can count…talk about their fear, insecurity, and anxiety about their bodies going into the holidays: fear of gaining weight, insecurity about how they already weigh more than they'd like to, anxiety about the expectations surrounding food at this time of year... In my typical scrooge fashion, I would like to call attention to the absurdity of… >> Read More
I had two weeks off from filming "The Big Bang Theory" for Thanksgiving. Some of those two weeks were spent baking for Thanksgiving. Most were spent being a regular overwhelmed mom.
Here are my…Top 3 Things I Acknowledge Are Wrong and my Top 3 Things I Know Are Right: WRONG 1. Yelling is Wrong Apparently, I yell. I don't scream, and I hope to not get to that point. It's more of a raising of the voice, which sometimes gets loud and maybe scary. OK, if we are… >> Read More