Sarah Seltzer, former editor for Kveller, is a writer and editor in New York City. She is a journalist covering culture, activism and gender, most recently as Deputy Editor at culture website Flavorwire.com. Her print and online work has appeared in publications including Poets & Writers, The Forward, Lilith, The Washington Post, Ms. Magazine, The New York Times, Salon, The Nation, The Wall Street Journal, Jezebel, The Hairpin, Refinery29, The Toast, Rolling Stone, and many more. She is a graduate of Harvard University, where she edited The Crimson’s weekend magazine, as well as the MFA in writing program at Vermont College of Fine Arts. Her first baby, Mikey, is growing up way too fast and she can objectively report that he is very cute. You can follow her at @sarahmseltzer and reach her at firstname.lastname@example.org.
Comfortable, private and pleasant lactation rooms are a crucial part of ensuring gender equality at work — and top companies eager to attract and retain female talent have gotten on board with the…Obama-era requirement that both "reasonable time" and a private space for pumping be available to those who need it. But what happens when women who are nursing and pumping go on a business trip? Not only is pumping in airport or train bathrooms unpleasant— but oftentimes when breastfeeding parents don't have a cooler to transport the… >> Read More
After a week of spirited debate (including here on Kveller in a series of posts) about her New York Times op-ed on modesty and misogyny, Mayim Bialik has issued a heartfelt apology on Twitter.
"I…am truly sorry for causing so much pain, and I hope you all can forgive me," she wrote, after reiterating that only perpetrators are to blame for harassment and assault. https://twitter.com/missmayim/status/920732191310561281 Pile-ons may be frustrating to witness at times—but the honest truth is that if a well-intended public figure hears a chorus of critique, it… >> Read More
Every cozy and slightly shabby place ends up being refurbished, with an attendant loss of soul, in my native New York City— land of a thousand demolitions. This holds especially true for…family-friendly places that weren't designed to be family-friendly, but just happened to be so. So allow me a moment to say goodbye to one such special place, a place I visited only three days ago with my own family: the gem room of the American Museum of Natural History. Gothamist and others reported that starting… >> Read More
Scott Rosenberg, a Hollywood screenwriter who wrote the Weinstein-produced film Beautiful Girls (which also happened to feature a breakout role for Natalie Portman) has written an epic Facebook post…acknowledging that he and everyone he worked with was aware, at least to some extent, of Harvey Weinstein's behavior: A few actress friends of mine told me stories: of a ghastly hotel meeting; of a repugnant bathrobe-shucking; of a loathsome massage request. And although they were rattled, they sort of laughed at his arrogance; how… >> Read More
A planned documentary is aiming to look at the lives of people who are child-free by choice, often labeled "selfish" or unnatural even in our enlightened times.
They've been scolded by the pope,…by pundits, by moralists everywhere--yet they are making a decision that feels conscious and moral. This film, Therese Shechter's My So-Called Selfish Life, will give a voice to the people who are actively choosing to live life sans offspring. Watch the trailer below--there's an Ivanka Trump cameo that may make you laugh out loud. And… >> Read More
The entertainment world (and many of us who consume entertainment) is abuzz about sexual harassment and assault allegations against movie mogul Harvey Weinstein, scrupulously documented in the New…York Times and the New Yorker this week. Just today, actresses including Gwyneth Paltrow and Angelina Jolie added their own disturbing tales to the litany. “I was a kid, I was signed up, I was petrified,” Paltrow told the Times. Weinstein's behavior, according to these reports, ranges from creepy to unprofessional to downright criminal--including rape.… >> Read More
I was the last of my friends to get our ears pierced some time in late elementary school, and to add insult to injury, my mom insisted on doing it at a doctor's office rather than a fun jewelry…store, the kind of place that all the characters in my favorite YA novels frequented for this rite of passage. All I remember is that it hurt, a lot, but was thrilling--and when I was older and decided to get a second hole, I waltzed into a jewelry store by myself and felt like a… >> Read More
Last year, Immigration and Customs Enforcement (ICE) announced it was not going to be in the practice of detaining pregnant immigrants.
Now, under the current administration, it's reversed…course--with horrifying results. Rewire reports: "These are women like Sara, a 27-year-old Honduran woman, and Emma, who migrated to the United States from El Salvador with her 5-year-old son. Both were detained at the South Texas Family Residential Center in Dilley, Texas, one of the nation’s three family detention centers. After being raped, Sara fled… >> Read More
What's the difference between really messing up—and just feeling guilty? For harried moms, it can be hard to tease out the distinction.
So on Yom Kippur, when we get down to the business of…atoning for our sins, it's productive and affirming to do the work of sifting through our mea culpas and ask: When are we actually hurting others and letting them down—and when are we just transgressing against an imaginary concept of maternal and parental perfection? So with help from my colleagues I offer you eight "sins"… >> Read More
"The Snowy Day" is a classic of children's literature by Ezra Jack Keats (born Jacob Ezra Katz) whose low-key, loving portrayal of Peter, a young black child playing in the snow, was a pioneer of…diverse kid's lit —not to mention a really lovely book worth treasuring. Now the U.S, Postal Service is issuing a set of stamps commemorating the book, featuring Peter in his iconic winter wonderland and red snowsuit. You can pre-order them now; they're released in October. >> Read More
My 17-month-old (as of today!) sleeps all the way through the night about 9 out of 10 nights these days, and I'm so grateful. Really, I am.
But getting my requisite shut-eye remains…tough. Here's why: Given that he's only sleeping about ten hours, that leaves me just under 10 hours between nighttime and dawn to sleep myself, while also doing things like eat dinner, shower, check in on work or email, have a civilized conversation with my husband that doesn't involve the phrase "squeezie" or "sippy cup,"… >> Read More
Proving that the healing power of a Jewish psychoanalyst can be felt across all segments of the world, today it was revealed that even the world's #1 Catholic, Pope Francis had a weekly session with…a Jewish therapist back in his 40s. Naturally, she helped him sort it all out on his path to Popedom. Per the AP: Pope Francis says that when he was 42 he had sessions weekly with a psychoanalyst who was female and Jewish to “clarify some things.” It wasn’t specified what the future pontiff wanted… >> Read More
The cheer of summer camp is back in session for Houston's flood evacuees, who need a place to stay and a welcome (and maybe some bug juice and hacky sack, too).
“I want to keep the families in…high hopes, knowing that they’re going to go back to Houston and [have to] figure things out,” said Lauren Laderman, a unit head at Camp Young Judaea-Texas, told JTA. “But we can give them a few days of relaxation knowing they’ll have somewhere to sleep and good food.” JTA's Ben Sales reported that "ten families… >> Read More
As the health care fight got heated in congress and women throughout the country expressed outrage over the potential loss of maternity benefits and children's healthcare, one Jewish mom and public…servant got bold and announced her Senate bid. Nevada Congresswoman Jacky Rosen, a former synagogue president, is challenging Senator Dean Heller—and she's one of many women who are stepping up these days. Her opponent, under intense pressure from casino magnates, ended up coming around in favor of the odious "skinny repeal" Trumpcare bill, which would… >> Read More
Margret Atwood's "The Handmaid's Tale" is the dystopia du jour thanks to Trump-era politics and a dark, compelling new television series on Hulu.
Just in time, the Folio Society has released a…brand-new collector's quality edition of the book with stunning, disturbing new artwork by Italian illustrators Anna and Elena Balbusso--and a new introduction by Atwood herself. As they describe it, the art "was inspired by Futurism, Russian Constructivism and fascist-period design. Their illustrations cleverly highlight the regimented and hierarchical nature of society in Gilead with their… >> Read More
Grace Paley's fiction is hugely influential--it echoes in contemporary short stories everywhere you read them.
But this particular summer, in which the intersection of parenthood and political…activism is at the forefront of many of our minds, her life is as much as an example to us as her art. While researching Paley for Kveller's video about her life, I found some really amazing quotes about how she managed to be a mom, a writer and an activist, and I thought I'd… >> Read More
Jill Eisenstadt’s 1987 and 1991 novels "From Rockaway" and "Kiss Out" earned her a bright literary reputation and following, even membership in the media-manufactured “brat pack” of writers…including Bret Easton Ellis and Donna Tartt. Though she’s written nonfiction since then, like "Swell," released this summer, was Eisenstadt’s first novel in 26 years—a period in which she raised three girls. Swell tells the story of a family of New York City transplants—with two daughters and a third on the way—who, after 9/11 affects… >> Read More
It's been something of a grim summer, hasn't it--between health care and Charlottesville?
But yesterday's eclipse--or more accurately, the viewing of it--gave me a little tiny bit of renewed faith…in humanity and the goodness of daily life, and all that fuzzy stuff. Here's why: 1. Nature is awesome, obviously, and so is the universe. It was incredibly striking to see a natural phenomenon in so many ways--the burning crescent through the eclipse glasses, its reflection in the crescent-shaped shadows that people instagrammed, and the… >> Read More
This weekend, I like many of you, received a few panicked texts from certain Jewish mothers in my life about today's impending solar eclipse. It's exciting, yes, but also kind of terrifying because...…the possibility of permanent eye damage. Oy. All the worry boils down to the following warnings—which we thought we'd pass on to you, dear Kveller readers. Be careful out there! If you don't have the right glasses, don't look up. Don't be like this guy, Lou, age, 70, who has been doing a media circuit… >> Read More
Heather Heyer was a woman about my age, who was attending a protest as I often do. She was mowed down in the prime of her life by a white supremacist in Charlottesville last weekend.
And her…mother's words of courage have been downright inspirational this week—much like another grieving mother earlier this summer. Heyer's mom Susan Bro spoke movingly at her daughter's funeral recently, saying "I'd rather have my child, but by golly, if I gotta give her up, we're gonna make it count." https://twitter.com/NBCNews/status/897850869500309504 In an appearance on Good Morning… >> Read More
Last week, we got excited over the news that Grossinger's, the fabled Catskills report that inspired "Dirty Dancing," might reopen someday soon. But until that happens, it lies in ruins.
Marisa…Scheinfeld has photographed Grossinger's and many other similar Catskills leisure centers today, as they are being reclaimed by time and nature. Her book,"The Borscht Belt: Revisiting the Remains of America's Jewish Vacationland ," was published by Cornell University Press in October 2016. She shared some of her best photos of Grossinger's today with Kveller—from the laundry to the… >> Read More
Sometimes there's so much "mom news" it can be hard to sort through it all—and sometimes the news is so important we want to share it with our readers so we can all be well-informed. Here's some of…the most important articles we've seen in a long time. So take 20 or 30 minutes, if and when you can, and look at the following stories. They'll change the way you see motherhood and womanhood. If you've ever struggled with your weight, your eating and your relationship to food — and you're thinking about… >> Read More
Today's men and people of all genders are getting creative in the kitchen—it's no longer a "women's thing." So why should the imaginary kitchens that kids love so much be sold in a pink or gendered…package? This month, mom and entrepreneur Shari Raymond launched her brand-new business called Milton and Goose, it's a line of US-manufactured eco-friendly, gender-neutral toy kitchens for kids. Kveller was lucky to get a chance to hear from Raymond about how she went from searching for her ideal play kitchen to inventing it herself, and the… >> Read More
This weekend, I officiated my brother's wedding.
It was an incredible, exhilarating, romantic, and emotional few days filled with naches: joy, family and friend reunions, dancing and a few moments…of being verklempt (weddings bring out my Yiddish, clearly). But then, yesterday afternoon, I took a rare few hours off to recuperate. My husband and I retreated to an undisclosed and lovely location while our baby son was in the hands of his fabulous babysitter and I lay down for a few hours and read… >> Read More
Today, the Senate voted to go forward with Obamacare repeal, even as protesters shouting "Don't Kill Us!" packed the senate gallery. All the Democrats and two female GOP Senators opposed the…bill. A lot of people who voted for today's healthcare repeal bill to proceed claim to be pro-life. They are not pro-life. You cannot be pro-life and vote to proceed to take away healthcare from children with disabilities. You cannot be pro-life and vote to proceed to take away healthcare from expecting mothers and families.… >> Read More