My daughter Tessa was born in 2006, two years after Facebook was founded. And like many children who shared their infancy with the social network, her milestones were chronicled online in true…Truman-esque fashion. (And by that, I mean the Jim Carrey movie — in which the main character’s entire life was broadcast on TV — not the 33rd President). Her birth, her arguments with her new baby brother, her first day of school, and her first lost tooth were recorded in quippy status updates. First, these… >> Read More
Almost exactly a year ago, I decided to be completely honest on Facebook and found out the true connective power of social networks: I told my friends that my youngest child would die from a rare…genetic disease. Before revealing her illness, I used Facebook like many others. I was “on brand” — marketing myself by posting selected memories. From the moment I became pregnant with my first child seven years ago, I understood that my brand would be “Stay at Home Mom Who Dotes on her Kids,” and it was… >> Read More
This might sound ridiculous, but I rank my friends. It’s not a competitive, middle-school type of ritual; rather, it’s a way of thinking that helps me avoid friend drama, which—in my humble…opinion—is usually caused by mismatched friend expectations, or “friendspectations,” as I call them This all started a few summers ago when two of my girlfriends were partying it up at every concert, cookout, and festival. Their Facebook posts made feel a mixture of FOMO and a sense of exclusion—two feelings I don’t handle well. At… >> Read More
Maybe you've noticed, maybe you haven't. Moms are everywhere on the internet, whether it's content they are writing, content written about them, or advertisements for things moms "need." Dads, on the…other hand, not as much--especially when it comes to content they write. Of course, a lot of this may seem obvious--but the math behind it is intriguing. For instance, a recent Pew Research survey from 2015 shows that moms are more likely to use Facebook than dads (no big surprise), with 81% of moms on the site,… >> Read More
I think I need some space. It’s not you, It’s me.
When we first got together, I thought you were everything I wanted. We have 464 friends in common. You were amazing. You…understood my narcissism and you propagated it. A constant companion, you were there for me at any time of the day or night, and you showed me fabulous pictures of your family. I felt like we had a real connection. (Except, of course, when my WiFi went out) I wanted to be with you forever.… >> Read More