In our home, we talk about God as if He is a member of our extended family, like Zeydie or Uncle Maury. We also talk about the soul. Our boys, who are 6 and 9, ask questions that are impossible to…answer: “Mom, how do you know God is real? Does He talk to you?” “Mom, how do you know there is a place we go to when we die?” “Mom, how do you know that my soul will always be alive?” “I don’t know exactly how,” I respond. “It’s more of a feeling than anything… >> Read More
What does it mean to be Jewish? I ask that question of myself all the time, especially as a parent. It pertains to how I raise my children, how I educate them, and what I expect of them.
With all…of the choices we American Jews have so far as how to express our Jewishness, it can get complicated. I often think about Amedeo Modigliani, the Italian Jewish artist who died in poverty in 1920, who countered the antisemitism he found in post-Dreyfus Affair Paris by proclaiming, to whomever he met: “I am Modigliani. I… >> Read More
I'm not much of a television watcher. I get easily bored with serials, find most comedies unfunny, and have no stomach for horror or violence. Most of my television entertainment comes from watching…couples, mostly with champagne tastes on ginger-ale budgets, choose from three houses on reality TV. But a few months ago with nighttime activities over early in our home, I flipped the channel to the popular family sitcom "Black-ish." The episode that happened to be on explored the tension created by different generations questioning religion and… >> Read More
“Mom, I don’t believe in God,” my daughter confesses to me in the 10th row of our conservative synagogue on Saturday, six weeks before her bat mitzvah.
We have spent weeks planning the…reception with a Rock 'n' Roll theme. We sent out the invitations, created the website, pored over her dvar-torah remarks, and now she tells me she doesn't believe in God! For the last five years, we've faithfully attended Shabbat services, volunteered on the membership committee, and stocked the food pantry. I sent her to religious school, bat… >> Read More
Anyone with two little ones will tell you—life is crazy. It is hectic and chaotic, but also amazing and fun. Days are filled with highs and lows. People with older kids will tell you, “These are…the days to remember. These are the best days.” But as families grow, there are periods of adjustment for everyone. When we welcomed our second child, Stella, into the world, our family was no exception. There were moments I would look at my husband and I knew from his expression, he agreed—what were we thinking?… >> Read More