When I met and married my husband, the fact that he had two daughters from his first marriage was an asset. I like kids. Kids like me. My mother is also a stepmother, and I am both a stepdaughter and…a stepsister. I've got a TON of experience at this. In other words, I was blithely confident that being a stepmother would come naturally. And I was wrong. What I learned is that being a stepmother is not even a little bit natural. It can be one of the most complicated and confusing relationships, because… >> Read More
I became a stepmom way before I became a mom. Being a stepmom is an extraordinary blessing, but it is also extremely hard. It is by far the most challenging relationship of my life, the one that…teaches me a significant amount of life lessons each day, and the one that causes me the most stress and frustration. From the very beginning, dating my future husband was a package deal: He came with a child. I accepted her as part of our relationship and, over time, fell in love with her. Through… >> Read More
Remember that phrase, a picture is worth a thousand words? Well, when one mom posted a family photo in a Facebook group, that's exactly how powerful the picture became. Recently, Karisa Smith…submitted her post to Love What Matters, a popular Facebook page that celebrates “love in all forms,” as a way to tell her story. The response she got was unbelievable. Smith shared a photo of her husband and daughter hugging--and it received 93k likes, 6,700 shares, and 1.8k comments later. Why did it garner so… >> Read More
My son doesn't like my second husband and won't socialize with him.
My husband feels that his family and kids take us as a couple, and my son should do the same. What should I…do? Affectionately, Caught READ: Carla Naumburg on Mindful Parenting & Why It’s OK to Ignore Your Kid Sometimes Dear Caught, Here is a little questionnaire I once wrote for my mother’s potential lovers after my father died: 1. What are some of your hobbies? 2. Are you allergic to anything? 3. Why are you pursuing my… >> Read More
If there's anything I've learned from being a longtime Kveller reader and contributor, it's that raising kids is HARD. Kids need attention and love all the time, but they also need dinner, a bath,…and a bedtime story, all before 7:45 p.m. or you will pay for it in the morning. Diaper changes and temper tantrums, picking a school, picking up toys, monitoring screen time--it's endless. All of that said, I envy all you moms and dads out there, because being a parent seems (from my no-doubt warped perspective)… >> Read More