My son’s bar mitzvah happened about two weeks ago. Obviously, being the proud Jewish mama that I am, I have to say the kid nailed it.
But I am not here to write The Ultimate Kvell. Rather, I’d…like to share with you the lessons I learned from this blessed event, in hopes they can prevent some headaches when you, too, are fortunate enough to witness your own son or daughter becoming a bar or bat mitzvah. So here goes: 1. Chill Out. On the way to synagogue on the morning of The Big… >> Read More
My second child — out of six — will become a bar mitzvah in a few weeks. And while I still have many more bar and bat mitzvahs ahead of me, as the accoutrements of this event threaten to overtake…its substance, I find that I am already burned out. Let me explain. We live in the New York metropolitan area — which is another way of saying “there are a lot of Jewish people around here, so almost every weekend, my 7th-grader goes to at least one bar or bat mitzvah service and party.”… >> Read More
Holy crap, a lot of stuff happened this year. Instead of focusing on the bad, we’d like to pick ourselves up and revisit those heartening moments that warmed our souls and reassured us that the…world was full of good. If these don't bring a smile to your face, we don't know what will. 1. This boy with autism led his own bar mitzvah service -- even after doctors said he would never talk. Debby Gans, the boy's mother, wrote: In front of a packed sanctuary, Benji didn’t just shine,… >> Read More
Just a few three days after my son’s bar mitzvah, it felt like it had been a lifetime. For three weeks, I didn’t sleep. For three days I couldn’t eat. After the service— which was beautiful,…natch—my sister-in-law literally pulled me away from a conversation I was having to sit at the table and eat. As I sat there with my family, I said, “one down, two to go.” Not two more kids: two more weekend events. For quite some time, I have been planning to write this article. These were… >> Read More
My son is in the 7th grade, which means he is in the middle of his bar mitzvah year. It has been an exciting and busy time for him. In addition to preparing for and having his own bar mitzvah, he has…been fortunate to be invited to celebrate at the bar and bat mitzvahs of many of his friends. Of course, he has had a lot of fun attending all the great parties. But beyond that, this year has allowed him to learn valuable life lessons including… 1. The satisfaction of accomplishing a goal Many of… >> Read More