Just a few three days after my son’s bar mitzvah, it felt like it had been a lifetime. For three weeks, I didn’t sleep. For three days I couldn’t eat. After the service— which was beautiful,…natch—my sister-in-law literally pulled me away from a conversation I was having to sit at the table and eat. As I sat there with my family, I said, “one down, two to go.” Not two more kids: two more weekend events. For quite some time, I have been planning to write this article. These were… >> Read More
If you received $25,000, what would you do with it? One teen knew exactly what to do when he got $25,000 from his bar mitzvah--he donated it. 13-year-old Drew Frank ended up buying over 800 pairs…of Nike sneakers and donating them to charity. Instead of receiving gifts at his bar mitzvah, Drew asked for cash donations. With the Braden Aboud Foundation, he purchased 800 pairs of Nikes and 800 pairs of socks. More than 400 pairs of those shoes were donated to a public elementary school in a lower-income neighborhood. The… >> Read More
My local farm stand is up and running. The featured crop right now is fresh-picked strawberries. They are picked by 8 a.m., loaded on the pickup truck, and driven about 25 miles to the farm stand in…my neighborhood. So they are FRESH. Nearly every day I buy a quart or two and wash and slice them for Abby and Eytan to snack on when they’re doing homework. This year, their sweetness is sending me right down memory lane. Two years ago in May, Eytan was starting his bar mitzvah tutoring. He… >> Read More
Preparing for a bar mitzvah service and planning a party with one’s ex is not on anyone’s bucket list. This I can assure you.
But doing it all after your children’s father dies suddenly…makes you long for the alternative. My children’s father died on the first night of winter break, five months before our son’s bar mitzvah. Their father had been my college sweetheart, and was now my ex-husband. We were not very observant, and truth be told, the bar mitzvah party was as important to us as… >> Read More
My 11-year-old son has no desire to have a bar mitzvah. It breaks my heart but I recently pulled him out of Hebrew school because he is so disinterested. He hates being in front of…crowds and fears he cannot learn everything he needs to know. I thought about just getting him tutored privately and doing a less formal, abridged version of the bar mitzvah on some Caribbean island with just the four of us and a “rent a rabbi.” Is that crazy? He honestly doesn’t want one at all… >> Read More